Reply #52: Ah, the million dollar question

[Chovexani]

I dunno what the answer is, personally. It's hard watching someone in a clearly fucked up relationship, especially if it's a friend or family member.

But the problem is people have wildly differing definitions of "fucked up". I've had people tell me my current relationship is fucked up (we're a committed triad), because they can't wrap their brains around responsible non-monogamy. And then you've got the homophobes and stuff...I dunno, it just makes me err on the side of caution.

I tend to not offer opinions on a relationship unless asked, and then I give the straight up honest truth as I see it, with the caveat that it's my opinion, colored by my beliefs and experiences.