Reply #7: one thing that has helped me is to try to talk about what happened...

[laura888]

...a lot.

Well, you have to choose who you tell. But telling it often seems to lessen the impact, and you can slowly even begin to be able to laugh at what seems at the moment to be deadly serious stuff. Believe me, I'm almost 40 and still having trouble, but I'm getting there. I see some progress.

yeah, what they did will affect you, but you can also start to choose HOW MUCH you choose to let it affect you.

Remember, your life is a gift - you can choose how you live it - way beyond what your parents leave you with. Don't let their actions have claim over you.

It's not easy. Keep your chin up.