Reply #15: here's what i can offer

[fizzgig]

a few years back, my SO of seven years left me. he was going to another country, so it was not sudden, but it was still more painful than i had prepared myself for.

like you, it was a situation that was not of my choosing and one i had to accept.

i took a year off. i did not touch a man for that year. instead, i took that time to take care of myself. i rebuilt relationships that had fallen by the wayside and i made new friends. but to do that, you first must be good to yourself.

mope if you need to. cry, scream, rage at the world if that is what you need. take many hot baths, drink many good bottles of wine, buy nice things for yourself. whatever makes you feel better.

it is one step at a time. it sounds trite, but it does get easier.