Do you give gifts to ungrateful family members?

[Beausoir]

Inspired by another thread this morning.

I have several nieces and nephews from my husband's family and my family.

I LOVE Christmas and I LOVE to buy gifts for kids at Christmas. But some adults seem intent on taking the fun out of it for me.

My husband's sister-in-law sends us a pre-approved list every November of things that we "may" buy her kids. Her daughter is a teen and her son is 11. She insists we buy them underwear, socks, clothes, and all that BORING stuff. They are not poor. They take cruises and vacations every year.
So last year, I got my back up and bought the teen daughter a cute set of body lotion, clear lip glosses and bubble baths. This year, when the sister in law sent the "pre-approved list" the first thing on it was ''NO BODY LOTIONS OR BATH PRODUCTS!!". What a bitch. This is the same woman who came to my house for Easter, stayed for 4 days with her family and refused to eat even one single bite of anything I cooked. She brought her own food in tupperware containers. And NO..she doesn't have any allergies. She's just rude.

So this year, I am threatening to send them a note saying we will not be buying any presents for them at all...instead we will donate to our adoption agency in their names.

But..that would be punishing the children, who I know love the gifts they get from us. (Last year I got the 11 year boy a neato detective kit and chemistry set. Better than socks and undies anyday of the week.)

Just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat.