Reply #31: I know it will be considered neanderthal to many..

[sendero]

.. but I agree with you.

Unless the OP is willing to live in a marriage where his wife feels free to "step out" at any time, he should do himself a favor and leave her not next week - NOW.

The marriage is OVER already. There will be no trust, the OP will be walking on eggshells, there is simply no way to put this toothpaste back in the tube.

I'm really sorry, it is one of the toughest things in life to deal with a breakup like this. But even worse will be years of torment, followed by a breakup that is all but inevetible.