Reply #49: I´m not quite sure what you wanted to point out. My son

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used to get very angry at the slightest criticism. Not always, but very often he got completely mad about me just saying something like "that was not good" or "no, you have to wait until your homework is done". He treated his sister´s toys with his feet, he ran away from home, he distroyed anything that he could reach. We did not know how to deal with such situations and the whole family was very unhappy. (We could not put our son on the ignore-list!)
A psychologist gave us some hints, and they work!
1. Ego-message. Always say what YOU are feeling! Example: Do not say "Your work is not ok", better say "For me this work does not seem ok". Don´t say "Don´t do this", better say: " I´m unhappy (sad, angry, what ever) when you do this"
2. The mirror. When you see, that the other person is getting upset, try to be a reflector for him or her. Use phrases like: "I see, you feel upset (angry, what ever) because I said this." So the person will start to think about his/her own feelings.

This was really helpful in our situation, and now we´re a very happy family!

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