Reply #18: I'm not clever enough to convince my wife that it's a "good" idea.

[JanMichael]

Plus I don't wish to anyway.

And while there are some people here on DU who endorse the idea my experiance has been limited to three stories of this nature.

None worked for any great length of time and there appeared to be slightly different understandings of the "rules".

One said she always told "him" about her screwing around, I heard him say the same, turns out he was fucking her best friend. Game over.

Another couple brought a bus-stop waif home and both claimed to love her. Turns out the guy wanted the bus-stop girl on different terms. Big fight. Weirdly bus-stop girl left and it turns out chicky sees her on the side without his knowledge.

The last were a couple of "swingers"...That's it, they broke up and she ended hooking up with on of their co-swingers years later, turns out they'd had an "affair" while "swinging".

Gotta be honest...They all have serious emotional problems and self-esteem issues masked by outward bravado.

Nice folks though...Like I said I couldn't convince Stephanie to do it nor would I want to.