Reply #42: Sometimes friends are meant to be friends

[Nikia]

I realize with the friend that I had "fallen in love" with that we were better off as friends. We were having the best relationship as friends that we both possibly could have had. Of course when you are compatible as friends, you are inclined to think that you would compatible as spouses/partners because current thinking is that our spouse/partner is suppose to be our best friend. By extension, we tend to think that if our best friend is of the sex that we have an attraction and do in fact find attractive, that we should eventually be their spouse/partner. That isn't always the case for many reasons. Sometimes, you have to be satisfied with being friends and if you are considering dating a friend, ask yourself if having sex, living together, and sharing each others lives completely and families would really improve your relationship or take away from it. Of course, if you are single looking for Mr./Ms. Right, that might be difficult to do. Also, you can't make someone feel something they don't.
I got fairly attatched to my husband fairly quickly. Sometimes, though, this is a bad thing that can really hurt you if your relationship wouldn't work out.