Reply #19: You stated it so well. I am in tears right now.

[Radio_Lady]

If only our parents could have lived up to our expectations.

I try every day to be a good parent to my two children, and their four children. My children actually lived with their natural father (we divorced when they were two and three years old). I had a medical problem in 1980 and he and his wife took over custody for eight years, while I payed them child support.

However, it doesn't matter. They still remember so many instances of problems and conflicts with their dad. Even today, my ex-husband tries so hard to put a "guilt trip" on them any time he can. I wish he were different, because I know there isn't much time. He's already been diagnosed with bladder cancer (treatable) and has a pacemaker for his heart.

I have to let all of this go. I know they will grieve when he is gone. My daughter, particularly, is so sensitive to his BS.

Anyway, your message has echoed here today, Bluerthanblue!

In peace,

Radio Lady