Reply #67: I struggle with this too

[Nikia]

Last week, I went to a ANAD (Anorexia Nervosa and Asscoiated Disorders). Even though the other women who introduced themselves said they were in recovery, rather than in their disorder, they tended to think the same way that I did. They were all perfectionists who feared failiure and cared very much about what other people thought of them. Hearing them tell about how they struggled with such thinking helped me realize how destructive this thinking was in myself. One of the older women, who seemed to have it most together or at least talked a good talk, said though that she had come to realize that we should be satisfied with small success and not to view anything as faliure.
I don't know if you are a perfectionist or not. I don't know if you judge yourself against an ideal. You do evidently judge yourself somewhat against other people . Try not to do that. Be alright being you even if you cannot look as good as the person who you would want to look like or your friends or cousins or whoeve else you wish that you would look like. You are beautiful enough by just being you.