Reply #10: it's not a knee jerk, it was an honest question.

[jdj]

I didn't get your metaphor.

(I'll give you some slack because when you are in the gay community you hear so many rumors of gayness that you eventually realize just how many celebrities there are out there in the life that pass for the sake of their careers. Ally McBeal's Portia de Rossi is one that has been hiding in the closet for years, despite being photographed all over town with women- the latest making out in a swimming pool with a cute brunette- for about ten years now. So it isn't as outlandish to us to hear someone may be gay or may have *finally* come out of the closet.)