Reply #12: You can change it. Use a process. Look in the mirror and evaluate

[david13]

yourself. Are you happy with your decisions? Do you approve of the way you dress, the way you wear your hair?
If not, there a million changes that you can do. You can get on a program or process to change anything you don't like about you.
About 40 years ago, a girl said to me, 'you are one of those guys that looks in the mirror in the morning and says 'go get 'em, tiger!', aren't you.
I looked more confident and capable than I felt inside. I realized that was the type of program I needed to get onto.
I suppose I have carried it too far and now am just selfish. But we don't have to please our parents anymore.
Only ourselves.
And when we do that we are on the best footing to have good relationships with others. And keep our own integrity and principles in the process.
dc