Reply #19: I don't know... I was forbidden to see a guy when I was a teenager.

[Justyce]

I still snuck to see him for a little while, but it was such a pain in the ass always trying not to get caught that it just wasn't worth it & I moved on pretty quick. Yes, they will still sneak around for a while, but if you keep making it a pain, the fun wears off pretty fast....

My sister tried the approach you're talking about with her teen & it completely backfired. She almost had a 9th grade dropout moving in with an 18-year-old loser, but luckily she figured out soon enough that approach wasn't going to work. My niece is now in college dating another college student & doing great, so I'm a firm believer in saying NO when you know it's in your kid's best interest.

My dad's advice when my daughter was entering her teens was to get control of the situation early on & stick to it.