Reply #8: "Boy, you should know that I don't mind going back to prison..."

[Xithras]

To paraphrase Foxworthy.

Actually, as a parent of a 14 year old girl myself, I have to agree with a poster upthread.

1. Find things to fill her time that will put her into contact with other kids. Kids do NOT engage in this kind of behavior unless it's supported by their peers. Banning them from seeing their friends doesn't work, so it's your job to introduce them to new ones. Find her activities that will fill her time and change her social group.

2. If your 13 year old is dressing like a 19 year old, you have an issue. We have firm rules on what my kid is allowed to wear. We permit creativity, but only as is age appropriate. Also, her makeup is limited to eyeliner.

3. Computer in a public place.

4. Make it clear to the boy that even ASSOCIATING with her is potentially a crime, and any kind of physical contact is a felony. This line works particularly well, "Other parents may not care about their daughters, but I do. Find one of them because my daughter is just going to get you prosecuted." Very effective. Even better, the breakoff will work better if it comes from him and not you. It works even better when you remind them that the girl will lose any motivation to deny the relationship once they break up, so unless he plans on marrying her, any contact WILL eventually end in his arrest.