Reply #23: well at least she didnt call me a freeper

[nadine_mn]

looking back it sounds harsh but really she was being reflective. I have had some whack therapists in the past - I think she was just blunt and it was refreshing (like ice water).

I feel like there is so much pressure to have friends - esp for women - looking at shows like Friends, Sex and the City, etc popular books focus on "sisterhood", - why don't I have friends? I know tv is not real and thats not what one should base life style on, but it made me wonder for a long time should I want close friends that I have drinks and gossip with?

Because I never felt like I was missing out - my hubby is a loner like me so we seriously enjoy our company all the time. Then I start to wonder if I put too much pressure on him to be partner, lover, and best friend....

See the problem is I overthink...

But people have made comments that I can be intimidating...not sure if its because I am overweight (really...not a size 10 who wishes she was a six.... but my size and my age are pretty frickin close), if its because I have no filter, or if I am bossy whatever

so that I want to change...I want people (esp employers) to like me or for god's sake not to be afraid of me....