Reply #325: I have been where you are now...

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In 1984 I lost my wife to problems related to Diabetes.

It hurt, I didn't know what I was going to do; I worried that I might loose my home; I was worried I would loose my business.

She had to quit her job a few years before because she was physically unfit ( she worked as a jailer in the Juvenile court and was not able to physically control the detainees. I along with 20,000 others were laid off in '82. We had just purchased a small dry cleaners in order to make ends meet.

I lost my wife, my best friend, and my business partner. I didn't know how I was going to survive.

But I did. And you will too.

Grieve now while you can do not try and loose your self in your work it will come back to haunt you.

Try not to make any major changes for at least 6 month (e.g. sell your home; move to a town; change your job).

Believe me it does get better, she will always be a part of who you are and you will always remember her and you love for her.

You will survive, things will get better.

Go in Peace...