Reply #108: My daughter's father

[raptor_rider]

did something to her during a "supervised" visit, his mother being the "supervisor" at her house. My daughter was 8 months old and when she was dropped off at the house after the visit, she was covered with red welts, nail gouges and scratches. This little girl that never hung on to you when you carried her, clung to my mom for dear life. Pictures were taken, plus video. I took her to the Urgent Care Center and head to toe x-rays were taken and it was considered "Inconclusive" by the doctor there that it was abuse. What could a 8 month old do to get these marks on her body like that? She was only crawling at that stage. It went to court and of course they denied it and was not considered abuse in court, however, he never saw her again. This little girl did not trust a man besides my dad for 3 years. She would not let her uncles hold her, she would freak out. She still has a PTSD with it to this day if a man grabs her arm or tries to restrain her.
She wasn't told anything about it until she started asking about a month ago about her birth father (she is 8.) She never wants to meet him because of this and for the fact that he has never even tried anything to try to get visitation to see her.
She is happy with the man I married, a man that is going to adopt her after we are married 2 years (our state say we have to be married 2 years before we go through the process of adoption.) She has been calling him dad since before the wedding.