Reply #53: It's not gonna happen to my sons...

[hunter]

I'm middle aged, and happily married, but when I was young I went out with a few young women of the sort you might call "manipulator."

But the word "manipulator" sounds so mean-spirited and disrespectful, and it is this kind disrespectful attitude that leads to that awful "she (or he) was asking for it" kind of thinking.

If you go into a relationship with an attitude of trust and respect towards your partner, not just a desire to have sex, you can avoid most trouble.

Looking back, I avoided a lot of trouble by avoiding sexual relationships with people I didn't yet trust. I've told my sons that, and I hope and pray that when they find themselves in similar situations, they will remember that.