Reply #22: As for me

[Brewman_Jax]

I don't forsee having children. My father never truly wanted the job; it shows by the less-than-good care he took of my mother and siblings. We wore hand-me-downs and didn't look like kids whose dad worked for IBM. The money (actually, his money) went to buy booze and bad investments.

He had lived in So. California in the late 50's after he left the Navy. I don't remember why he returned to his hometown (Cleveland, OH), I think it was to help out his parents. I understand that he didn't do much of anything. Also, he was unmarried in his late 20's, which was looked down on in that time. He soon remedied that when he married my mother in the early 60's.

When my mother was severly ill with pneumonia over the summer (BTW, she's home and improving), the total gofer and being responsible burden was left on my shoulders. My youngest brother was semi-reliable (good in a crisis, but gone once the crisis is over), my middle brother said don't bother him and I guess it sucks being you. She didn't get divorced 25 years ago, at his urging, and now she's gotta live with it. My father stayed home, useless bastard! He didn't see her in ICU but twice, and never visited the nursing homes once she left the hospital. To make matters worse, the people at her church and other friends asked about her and he told them nothing, if he bothered to answer the phone. They had to call me for any info.

Have children if that's what you want. Having children, provided the gods bless you with healthy ones to begin with, is no guarantee that they'll care in the future.

That's enough rambling. I rarely write this much, people might think I'm smart or something. Also, my cats are allergic to kids.:silly: