Reply #29: No, your offer was condescending

[prolesunited]

and the whole tone of your post implied that RainDog was at fault. She stated her credentials and were extremely dismissive of all of her accomplishments. After that, did you honestly think she would turn to you for help. What? So you could discourage her some more?

But, of course, everyone who finds themselves in bad circumstances are the cause of their own misfortune because that appears to be the premise upon which you base your world view. Someone's hand is tied behind their back and then they are criticized for not winning the fight.

I, too, believe in personal responsibility but I also understand that the deck really is stacked against some people and segments of society. The corporate and societal structure is constructed to maintain wealth and class distinctions. Sure, there is some room for upward mobility and every once in awhile we have the stellar rags to riches story to inspire everyone to keep struggling. Those who break through this limiting structure are the exception rather than the rule.

I have personally met RainDog and she does not have an "attitude" as you have suggested. A really don't care for intellectually dishonest debating tactics that some people engage in around here, especially when it comes to deliberately tweaking others. When they respond with justified defensiveness and anger, they are then chastised or mocked.

Thus, the issue is obscured and we don't focus on the matter at hand, rather the personality or attitude of the poster with whom there is a disagreement becomes the issue. I think many here can see through such obvious ploys.

You don't know anything of her life and what personal challenges that she has had to face. I certainly don't think it is fair for you to pass judgment on her based on an interaction with you on a message board. I am her friend, and although you may think that clouds my judgment, I certainly am in a much better position to assess her attitude than you. RainDog is very intelligent, quite articulate, friendly and engaging.

Perhaps it would be best and certainly more productive to stick to the topics were are discussing rather than sidetrack the discussion with smears on those who are posting within the thread.