Reply #18: another thought -- the goal shouldn't be to "keep" your kids from

[nashville_brook]

smoking pot. smoking pot isn't the problem. smoking pot never killed anyone. smoking pot never got anyone in a bar fight. smoking pot actually gives your unquiet mind a kick in the pants -- like meditation.

if you were to find out that everything your daughter told you about she's told you about resisting peer pressure were technically true -- that she wouldn't smoke pot b/c of other people -- but that she smoked pot b/c she WANTED to... b/c she was curious... b/c it was was her decision -- how would that jibe with you? would be like, "phew -- at least it wasn't b/c of peer pressure..."

i have a cousin who was your classic "good girl" in high school. nerdy. self-reliant to a fault. truncated social life. always had one friend who was way prettier than she, and she'd be her little slave. she would rail on all the "stupid" people with "pot parties." yikes. if intelligence were measured socially, she'd be riding the short bus.

does this correlate with success in life? she never smoked pot -- seems like she's headed for BIG things...

well lets see. graduated with a BS in Restaurant/Hotel Management. Managed a few restaurants (Red Lobster, etc). Settled down with another restaurant manager. Had a kid, both lost their jobs. He sells cars now and she works part time in a grocery store bank. With a combined income of 35,000, they have are on the brink of losing their house. she's clinically depressed and is so tight with her superior sense of self, that she won't seek help. instead she has turned 150% of her energy to her little boy. it's a case of smothering worthy of study.

meanwhile, all her brother's POTHEAD/acid-tripping buddies have gone on to huge success -- one even owns an aerospace company. i'm talking -- most of these guys could retire now (at 40) and smoke pot for the rest of their lives and their grandkids' kids, would still inherit quite a pile of cabbage.


all i can is it's a good thing she never smoked pot.

point is, there's plenty worse than pot-smoking.