Reply #200: No, unfortunately, it's not that simple.

[Nicholas D Wolfwood]

And I'm incredibly sorry for the situation you had to endure. That is absolutely terrible.

I agree - men have to be more responsible for themselves and their own actions. My point, however, you are ignoring completely.

I am NOT saying men have a veto or any force of will in this issue. I'm saying that they should absolutely have some input. If a man is willing to take responsibility for his actions and be good father, or hell, even raise a child on his own, so long as there's not a medical issue involved, there should be at least a dialog that occurs one way or another.

If the mother's health is in danger, that's a different discussion entirely. And either way, yes, the decision is ultimately to be made by the woman. But that does not give a woman the right to stick her fingers in her ears and not even listen to what the father has to say.

Just because it has been one way in the past (ie. men dominating the issue), that does NOT mean it should be entirely the polar opposite in the future. There IS a grey area, and that is where this issue should be.