Reply #145: Short version:

[liberalhistorian]

I was engaged, we were living together, we used birth control, I got pregnant anyway, he at first claimed he'd support me because I didn't want an abortion, I was afraid my parents would want me to have an abortion and he said "they'll have to go through me first", fiance grows more and more distant and less and less caring, fiance throws me out of the house because he "didn't want to deal with it", fiance accuses me of screwing around on him, I go home since there's nowhere else to go, I'm home for three weeks before I get up the guts to tell them I'm pregnant and I have to tell them alone, my parents want me to have an abortion, I resist for a couple weeks until they give in, I go through the pregnancy at home, have my son, very little contact with ex-fiance, finally tell him when our son is 14 months old that he has two months to start showing some interest in the child or I'll file for child support, he doesn't, I do, the battle is on, he finally acknowledges paternity when the tests come back, child support and visitation are arranged, child support and visitation schedules followed very erratically, and fourteen years later I'm still the one doing most of the child-rearing work and paying most of the expenses.