Reply #6: I am in a unique position for sure.

[Xanth]

And I am having to realize the reality of having a gay family member. It was easy to accept because she is family, but at first I felt it was a phase. She is still young and has always been around girls. She played softball for the longest time. This being the case I felt she felt most comfortable around girls than boys. My step dad, her dad was also very strict with her. I felt this played a part too.

This is still all new to me since I just found this out in the last year. I am really still just getting to know her. Since I am her older brother and was not at the house most of the time with her, our quality time is very limited. She had a demanding softball schedule and I was in another city living my life.

I hope to learn more about myself and hers as our lives go on. I truly hope she finds a loving mate to share with. I also hope she learns that her sexual lifestyle is what she does and not who she is.

Your right most people quit when it gets rough. I don't know why my parents really divorced. Alot of the people I know have been divorced. It frustrates me. I remember when I was dating I could leave if things didn't work out. Being married is a whole new realm of living. There are different commitments and ones more binding. I know the divorce rate in America is very high for heterosexual couples. Do you really want to be a part of that statistic for gay marriages?

I didn't realize that something as simple as hospital visitation rights were not allowed for homosexuals. On the surface that doesn't make any sense. It seems that has more to do with the family of the individual not accepting the gay lifestyle.

Truhavoc thank you for sharing with me. I really have never talked to anyone else about this besides my wife and my oldest sister.