Reply #109: I guess this is as good a place as any to say that

[Bouncy Ball]

I think the family courts system too often are biased in favor of moms. I'm not saying moms shouldn't have their kids, but when joint custody would be feasible and good, too often moms get whole custody and dads get visitation privileges. In absence of neglect and/or abuse, I just don't understand that.

My own dad lost custody of us because he didn't have a pricey attorney. He was a blue collar guy, embarrassed of the dirt under his nails he never could quite get cleaned up and his cheap Sunday suit. He felt out of place in that marble court. And he fought as hard as he could, but lost us anyway.

HE was the loving parent. Our mom was the insane (no, literally), abusive and neglectful parent and she got FULL custody. Explain that to me.

Now I know that was the 70s, but from what I see, it isn't too much different now. I've known too many dads who throw in the towel, because they are convinced they are going to lose.

There ARE deadbeat parents, but they come in BOTH genders. Both.