Reply #57: i believe the answer to this is...

[ashmanonar]

look at the parents. the people who have children with "losers" usually have some family trauma in their past (a deadbeat dad, or a mom that doesn't care) that reflects on their present situation.

this problem, of people having kids and getting married SIMPLY bc they feel like they can't find anyone else to be with is self-sustaining. it's a vicious cycle. i don't know how to break the cycle, but we should try. bc it, more than anything else, is leading to the high divorce rate in the US, and all the other problems that only come about over a generation (ie not right this moment)