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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:01 PM Original message |
Ladies, if you knew your dad slept around while married to your mom... |
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CatWoman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:04 PM Response to Original message |
1. I had a brother who was born one month before me |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:42 PM Response to Reply #1 |
21. Bet. |
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OmmmSweetOmmm (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:45 PM Response to Reply #1 |
59. My ex has a brother who was born 4 months after him. |
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HamdenRice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 10:10 AM Response to Reply #1 |
96. I spent minutes staring at your post wondering, "how is that biologically possible?" |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:08 PM Response to Original message |
2. my father waited until he was 60, couldnt get it up, and blame mom |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:22 PM Response to Reply #2 |
9. My problem is my mom. She can't get over it. I'm trying to get her to get into |
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colinmom71 (616 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:58 PM Response to Reply #9 |
32. Your mom isn't acting childishly... |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:35 PM Response to Reply #32 |
56. I talk to her about counseling every day. I'm gonna take your reading suggestion |
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MuseRider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:07 PM Response to Reply #32 |
65. I was going to suggest |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 08:44 PM Response to Reply #9 |
78. my mom never drank. she started drinking. quit eating. went to therapy and they gave her drugs |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:10 PM Response to Original message |
3. I have two opposing thoughts here. |
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colinmom71 (616 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:49 PM Response to Reply #3 |
24. So sorry, posted in the wrong place! (nt) |
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villager (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:13 PM Response to Original message |
4. I'm still wondering what affect it will have on my sons when they find out about their mom's affair |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:18 PM Response to Reply #4 |
5. For me it was huge. I don't know why. I'm hoping that your boys don't have |
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Raine1967 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:18 PM Response to Original message |
6. How could you NOT let it impact you? |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:28 PM Response to Reply #6 |
14. Thank you. Oh my mom plays a huge role in this whole thing. She won't |
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Raine1967 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:23 PM Response to Reply #14 |
47. ROFL! |
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travelingtypist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:22 PM Response to Original message |
7. You are not nutz. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:30 PM Response to Reply #7 |
15. Thank you. I had those same issues as a kid but with an extended relative. |
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travelingtypist (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:42 PM Response to Reply #15 |
20. That sounds like a solid, sensible plan. |
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ellenfl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:22 PM Response to Original message |
8. yes, we knew at a young age that our father cheated on mom . . . |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:46 PM Response to Reply #8 |
23. Did your dad know you figured it out? |
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ellenfl (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 08:14 AM Response to Reply #23 |
89. i don't know. we never discussed it that i recall. but then, |
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salin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:24 PM Response to Original message |
10. Sorry about his callous response to you. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:52 PM Response to Reply #10 |
26. Yup still together. It is true that my dad has this 'it's all about me' thing |
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salin (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:56 PM Response to Reply #26 |
29. That sounds like a wise approach |
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OKNancy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:26 PM Response to Original message |
11. You can't help how you feel, so if it did have an effect on you |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:57 PM Response to Reply #11 |
31. I'm mad cuz still afterall these years he's still talking to the woman. Even |
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Inspired (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:26 PM Response to Original message |
12. No but I'd lose a lot of respect for my dad. Which is very sad. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:00 PM Response to Reply #12 |
34. I have. I can't tell him that cuz I think it'd hurt him. I think he can figure it out though. |
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get the red out (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:27 PM Response to Original message |
13. I would have had a very hard time with it |
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calimary (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:32 PM Response to Original message |
16. My dad was a serial cheater. Kept company with several other woman. |
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Mandate My Ass (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:52 PM Response to Reply #16 |
27. Wow. Sorry to hear that but my story is the same but with a twist. |
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calimary (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:06 PM Response to Reply #27 |
38. Hey, what can you do, she said, shrugging again. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:11 PM Response to Reply #27 |
42. It's funny what little kids key on. Your sister was abandonment. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:07 PM Response to Reply #16 |
40. Wow! Great post. Congratulatinos on your 33+ marriage. Sounds like |
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calimary (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:19 PM Response to Reply #40 |
45. Actually, yeah, I am pretty happy, all things considered. |
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MuseRider (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:37 PM Response to Reply #16 |
70. Infidelity |
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calimary (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 11:59 PM Response to Reply #70 |
87. VERY true. They don't call it a messy business for nothing! |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:34 PM Response to Original message |
17. Trust, abandonment, sure it has an impact. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:19 PM Response to Reply #17 |
46. I need to work on forgiving my dad. I wish my brother were here in GA |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:24 PM Response to Reply #46 |
48. I really hear that because I didn't have any sibs to help me deal with them. |
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nini (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:36 PM Response to Original message |
18. Somehow you have to get to the point where you forgive your dad for YOUR sake |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:25 PM Response to Reply #18 |
49. I told him today so I think I can let it go. It was time and today was the day. |
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demmiblue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:39 PM Response to Original message |
19. You have every right to your feelings. |
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ayeshahaqqiqa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:43 PM Response to Original message |
22. You have every right to be mad |
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undeterred (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:49 PM Response to Original message |
25. My father was faithful to my mother for 40 years |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:54 PM Response to Reply #25 |
28. Yes, OMG that is rare. I don't think any of my relatives have had faithful |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 09:37 PM Response to Reply #28 |
86. oh that is sad. i have more people in my family that have had no cheating |
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goclark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:56 PM Response to Original message |
30. Hi My Friend |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:30 PM Response to Reply #30 |
53. Thank you. Great post. |
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InvisibleTouch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 04:59 PM Response to Original message |
33. I wonder whether marriages suck "because of infidelity," or... |
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mamaleah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:05 PM Response to Reply #33 |
37. Possession? |
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InvisibleTouch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:26 PM Response to Reply #37 |
51. I don't advocate lying and sneaking around... |
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mamaleah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:32 PM Response to Reply #51 |
54. I guess I look at it more self-lessly |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 09:04 PM Response to Reply #54 |
81. One can write one's own vows -- nobody is "locked" into a relationship. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 09:33 PM Response to Reply #54 |
84. It's not that hard. |
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Sisaruus (703 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:57 PM Response to Reply #33 |
60. You might enjoy Against Love: A Polemic by Laura Kipnis |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:10 PM Response to Reply #33 |
67. I couldn't disagree with your post more. People know what they are getting |
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mamaleah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:18 PM Response to Reply #67 |
69. Yup kinda like |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 09:04 PM Response to Reply #33 |
80. 15 yrs in hubby and i amazed is so easy. both of us like our marriage, enjoy marriage. |
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wickerwoman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:00 PM Response to Original message |
35. It's your model for relationships but not your only one. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:07 PM Response to Reply #35 |
64. Going forward starts today. You are right about that. |
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UndertheOcean (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:03 PM Response to Original message |
36. What about those whose Mom slept around while married to their dad |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:16 PM Response to Reply #36 |
44. I saw this after I posted my reply below |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:26 PM Response to Reply #36 |
50. I could be wrong but imho, it's not about men or women |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:05 PM Response to Reply #36 |
63. I think it is the same thing. If my mom had done it I think it would have been |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 09:07 PM Response to Reply #36 |
82. i dont think it matters much on the gender, do you? not |
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mamaleah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:07 PM Response to Original message |
39. It would certainly have an impact on me if I knew one of my parents were not faithful to the other. |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:09 PM Response to Original message |
41. "Boys will be boys" - the response of a total asswipe. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:04 PM Response to Reply #41 |
62. I know right! I told him that he said it today. I think it shocked him. |
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pipi_k (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:14 PM Response to Original message |
43. In my house, it was the opposite problem |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:03 PM Response to Reply #43 |
61. his vow was taken with his wife...not you...I can appreciate that. I think in some |
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JDPriestly (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:29 PM Response to Original message |
52. Here are some interesting numbers. Infidelity is very common. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:44 PM Response to Reply #52 |
58. "Monogamy Myth" Straight up. Thanks for the numbers and the link. |
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southernyankeebelle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:33 PM Response to Original message |
55. UNTIL YOU ARE IN THAT SITUATION YOU REALLY CAN'T JUDGE = |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 05:37 PM Response to Reply #55 |
57. Oh I'm not judging mom. She needs help though. Seriously. |
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anneboleyn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 09:07 PM Response to Reply #55 |
83. please stop yelling. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 09:34 PM Response to Reply #83 |
85. i figured |
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dana_b (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:08 PM Response to Original message |
66. you are not crazy at all |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:48 PM Response to Reply #66 |
72. I do the cold shoulder good. I'm also a champ @ walking away. |
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TankLV (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:11 PM Response to Original message |
68. Ir's YOUR choice - you can CHOOSE to "get over it" and lead YOUR OWN LIFE |
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asjr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 06:40 PM Response to Original message |
71. It happened a long long time ago, but |
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Blasphemer (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 07:06 PM Response to Original message |
73. These things are complicated |
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LWolf (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 07:29 PM Response to Original message |
74. That wasn't the most important factor, although it certainly had an influence. |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 09:14 AM Response to Reply #74 |
95. Yup. I've come to realize that platonic is good. Unless it is Vin Diesel |
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fortyfeetunder (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 07:58 PM Response to Original message |
75. he did cheat, it did affect me |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 09:05 AM Response to Reply #75 |
94. For me it's caused huge commitment issues 1. I don't want it to happen |
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Skittles (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 08:01 PM Response to Original message |
76. I have a half brother born of an affair my dad had |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 08:45 AM Response to Reply #76 |
92. Looks like you gained something good at least. That's kinda cool. |
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PSzymeczek (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 08:37 PM Response to Original message |
77. My half-brother on my dad's side |
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tammywammy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun Jun-28-09 08:49 PM Response to Original message |
79. My dad cheated on my mom for years |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 08:43 AM Response to Reply #79 |
91. I love my dad. He's been a great father, I just feel that I let his actions |
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tammywammy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 11:21 AM Response to Reply #91 |
97. I had that coversation too! |
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Bucky (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 12:08 AM Response to Original message |
88. How about this? |
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xultar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 08:39 AM Response to Reply #88 |
90. Thanks Bucky. I'm feeling much lighter today! |
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goclark (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon Jun-29-09 08:46 AM Response to Reply #90 |
93. Hope we helped you to feel better |
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