What are the good things and bad things about being single?

[Mutley]

I'm coming up on my sixth single week here in a few days and I'm starting to think about my situation and what I'll be doing down the road.

So, what do you all think are some good things and bad things about being single?

[Darth_Kitten]

1. You can make your own decisions....

you have freedom....your time is your own. :)

bad things:

things are more expensive for you
it gets lonely at times.

[Mutley]

2. Yes.

I do like making my own decisions: what to eat, whether or not to go out, what to watch on tv. But I'm finding myself lonely. That sucks.

[Darth_Kitten]

6. I'd like to meet someone....

thing is, with the things that have been going on in my life recently I've been ignoring my so-called social life.
Now that I'm more settled somewhat, it's time to work on that. :)

[Mutley]

14. So would I.

Though things aren't exactly settled for me at the moment.

[Darth_Kitten]

25. Just allow things to settle....

when things are right, love will happen. :)

I gotta believe that. :D

Here's hoping we both get what we need and deserve. :hug:

[Mutley]

27. I'm not ready for love yet anyway.

I was attached for nearly 8 years so six weeks just isn't enough time. But eventually... eventually.

[In_The_Wind]

3. sleeping alone/sleeping alone

plus no one eats your Ben & Jerry's

[Mutley]

4. I don't eat that much Ben and Jerry's anyway

that stuff is highly addictive. :P

[In_The_Wind]

7. The remote control is right where you left it.

You never find the tp all used up just when you need it.

[Mutley]

10. The tp is important.

I'm the one who loses the remote. :P

[In_The_Wind]

17. not only that ~ the tp rolls off the top

:silly:

[Mutley]

18. Oh that's the most important.

Who doesn't think that's important? Except my ex of course.

[Darth_Kitten]

8. Cherry Garcia?

of course I pick the ice cream. ;)

[Mutley]

11. Phish Food.

Duh!

[In_The_Wind]

15. Brownie Batter

Yum :9

[hfojvt]

70. I was just laughing at the Dr. Pepper commercial

"I would do anything for love ... but I won't do THAT!"

"That" being "share my Dr. Pepper". Sheeesh Joani, with cost savings and two incomes, you should be able to buy more Ben and Jerry's when you have an SO.

I kinda like sleeping alone, because I do not have to worry about an elbow to the face either with my elbow or my face.

For me the worst part is the logic. Logically the fact that "nobody loves me" means "I am not loveable"

Interesting thought to have while listening to "picture perfect", but there it is. But I am used to it by now.

[Lydia Leftcoast]

5. Okay, here's my list

Good:

You don't have to check with someone else when you make plans
You can cook anything you want
Nobody changes the channel when you're watching something else
You can arrange your furniture any way you want
You can spend your disposable income any way you want


Bad:

Coming home to an empty house/apartment
Not having an automatic "date" for couple events
Having to pay the single supplement when you travel
Having only one income
Having to do all chores yourself
Nobody to pamper you when you're sick or depressed

[Mutley]

9. Good list.

:thumbsup:

[Love Bug]

21. Good list. I would add this:

Good:
No one else around to mess up the house and leave it for you to clean up! (unless you have cats, but that's a whole 'nother thread)

Bad:
Friends who are coupled tend to hang out with other couples and leave you out of social activities.
You get cheated on birthdays. Let me explain: When your coupled friends have their birthdays, they each get a present. When it's your birthday, however, you get a joint gift from the couple. (Yeah, it sounds petty and childish and I don't lose any sleep over it, but there it is. I do make up for this by giving the couple a joint gift for Christmas. Neener.)

[Darth_Kitten]

23. I come home to a chirping birdie....

so, it's not exactly an empty place for me. :)

[Mutley]

24. Well, I have a dog

but there is something to be said for human companionship. The TV just isn't cutting it anymore. :P

[MissMillie]

52. some of us singles have to think of our kids when we make plans

and when we cook, or when watching TV, and don't have any disposable income (after all, we have kids)

[mdmc]

12. good things = hope of a better future (someone will sweep you away)

bad things = waiting for someone to sweep you away

[Mutley]

13. Yes. The waiting is making me impatient.

:P

We spend our whole lives waiting for one thing or another. If nothing else we're waiting for death.

[mdmc]

16. take me away!

:)

[Mutley]

19. I'm supposed to be the one who says that.

:P

[mdmc]

45. someone had to say it!

:)

[DrDebug]

20. Good things: You can throw your dirty socks on the floor

Bad things: You will throw your dirty socks on the floor

[Mutley]

22. So far I've been throwing mine in the basket.

I like a relatively clean house. :hi:

[Shell Beau]

26. Single can be so much fun if you don't harp on the "not having

someone to share this and that with"! Enjoy being by yourself for a while. :hug:

[Mutley]

28. I am.

But I'm not getting any younger, either. :P

[billyskank]

30. Yeah being single really rocks

:eyes:

[Mutley]

31. ...

:hug:

[Shell Beau]

34. Awww,

:hug:

It can rock at times!! But I guess since I am not single, that is easy for me to say!

[billyskank]

36. I was going to say

only a happily married person would say that.

[billyskank]

29. Good things

No-one to answer to.

Bad things:
No-one to be your friend. No-one to cuddle. No-one to keep you company. No-one to have sex with.

[Mutley]

33. You're the first to say

sex. Thank God someone finally did. :D

[billyskank]

39. I'm just the most honest

:)

[Mutley]

41. Refreshing.

:)

[Shell Beau]

37. Sex is fun!! But, being single doesn't mean celibate!!

Does it? :shrug:

[Mutley]

38. I can't speak for everyone

but I'm not one to be able to separate sex and feelings, and I'm NOT one to sleep around.

[Shell Beau]

42. I am not either!! I've been with my husband and my husband!!

:shrug: But I am very traditional when it comes to that! My friends certainly aren't. I just thought I was a prude when it came to random sex!!

[Mutley]

44. I know some people who are willing to spread it around.

That doesn't make them bad people, it's just not me.

[Shell Beau]

49. I hear ya!! I feel the same as you!

:hug:

[billyskank]

46. That is most admirable

in my opinion, anyway.

[Shell Beau]

47. Thanks!! My husband thinks so too!!

[billyskank]

40. I always thought it required two?

:shrug:

[Shell Beau]

43. Not necessarily but that does help!!

[tjwmason]

32. There's nobody else around.

That's a major plus point in my book - though reciprocal, though I'd hate to have other people aroud me all of the time, I wouldn't be so cruel as to force my company onto anybody permanently either.

If you turn into a curmudgeon like what I am, then it's all good. :D

[Mutley]

35. Some days I feel like I'd make a good curmudgeon.

:P

[tjwmason]

48. I'm brilliant at it.

I can even take that extra step into misanthropy when I want to. :bounce:

[Mutley]

50. Don't do that, though.

:hug:

[ZombieNixon]

51. Bad - no one around, sleeping alone, no sex

:(

Good - well, I'm sure there are good things, but I'm not sure what they are.

Meh, I'm pretty much resigned to the fact that my social life will suck from here to September. I really wish I could skip summer break. (Shocking, I know :o)

[Mutley]

53. Good things...

making your own choices. No incessant fighting that usually marks the near end of a relationship.

[ZombieNixon]

54. *hollow laugh* I didn't have any incessant fighting. We got along great.

Until...well...it was pretty much like :nuke:

Three :nuke:s in fact. In quick succession.

[Mutley]

55. Well.

I can't decide which is worse. Constant fighting or not seeing it coming.

[tjwmason]

56. That's the other good thing.

No deceit.

[Mutley]

58. You just need to find someone honest.

Which is NOT what I had. That and trust top my list for the next relationship over every other thing.

[ZombieNixon]

61. How are you supposed to tell if someone's honest?

They could just be a really good liar.

My ex was dishonest because she didn't have the courage to come out and tell me if she was having second thoughts, I know that much.

[billyskank]

63. You can't. That's why trust needs to be earned

over time. Even then, sometimes we get betrayed. It's just life.

[Mutley]

64. I don't know.

:shrug:

Which sucks.

[tjwmason]

62. You mean somebody non-human?

:shrug:

[Mutley]

65. Yes. That's exactly what I mean.

:P

[supernova]

57. Slightly off topic: Briget Jones DVD extra

The DVD for Briget Jones: The Edge of Reason has a funny little extra. You can take a quiz to see who you would wind up with, Mark Darcy or Daniel Cleaver.

I've taken it twice now, trying to get it to say "you chose Mark Darcy...," trying to give answers that (I think) a Mark Darcy would appreciate about me. But each time it says "You chose NEITHER! You enjoy being in control!"

:rofl:

I enjoy being on my own most of the time... but sometimes it is hard when you realize there is no one there for back up or to be supportive.

:grouphug: for all the DU singles.

[Mutley]

59. ...

:grouphug:

We singles deserve it. :P

[supernova]

Yes, we do mutley

:D

:hug:

[leftofthedial]

60. one good thing is I can have sex anytime I want it

one bad thing is that the sex does not involve another person

buh dum pssssht.

I'll be here all week. Try the veal.

[Mutley]

66. Self help is not nearly as fun as doubles help.

:P

[Mutley]

67. Next question...

('Cause I don't want to start a new thread)

How do you know when you're over someone and ready to move on?

[supernova]

68. Two signs

1) They don't occupy your thoughts of either worrying what they are doing every second, nor staying angry at the many insults you endured while with them.

2) When you do have the occasional thought about them, you don't have much of a reaction. You think it's just somebody you once knew, if too well.

[Mutley]

71. That's a good answer, actually.

[ZombieNixon]

69. When ya find out...let me know, wouldja?

;)

[Mutley]

72. I will.

:D