History of Feminism
In reply to the discussion: Ann Romney and raising children: [View all]seabeyond
(110,159 posts)and my style of work, putting in a 10-14 hour days was how to scale back not doing a thorough job and doing less as a parent and employee. cause there was no way, the day i had the baby, to be the same kind of employee and still be the parent i wanted to be.
those were our options. some people are able to figure it out. i could not. i could not go into work and work less hours and i could not come home after a 10-14 hour day and feel i am giving a baby what he needed.
mentally, in any job i take i have to give it all. talk about a quick break down? i would be put into a situation where it was totally opposed to who i am.
so we work with what we have.
being so old when i got married and having the experience and options and wisdom, i covered my ass.
it boggles my mind to hear someone suggest i need to pay someone to watch (and it would merely be watching not nurturing, teaching, loving .... all criteria of parenting) my baby so i can earn money to pay them. many parents do not see it as a good option, but the only option. that still is not good.
are there lots of YOUNG women that set themselves up in a situation where they are vulnerable? yes. that is what we need to address. not that a PERSON chooses to divide labors in a manner that does not meet others approval.