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Mental Health Support

Tobin S.

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2. You are too kind Maraya. Literally.

Reply to Maraya1969 (Original post)

Sat Nov 9, 2013, 02:21 PM

Nov 2013

I would not talk to this guy until he could prove he was sober, and he would never be my significant other again, no matter what.

He sounds like he has a lot of work to do before he has his act together. I would cut him out of my life totally if I were you. Get a restraining order if you have to and enforce it if he violates it.

I'm saying this as someone who really does have bipolar disorder.

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I am having a real hard time forgiving and deciding what to do with my "boyfriend" [View all] Maraya1969 Nov 2013 OP

This may be his 'bottom,' elleng Nov 2013 #1

I guess I kind of feel the because this has been his life for so long that he will not be able to Maraya1969 Nov 2013 #3

Listen to what Tobin said, elleng Nov 2013 #4

You are too kind Maraya. Literally. Tobin S. Nov 2013 #2

+1 LiberalEsto Nov 2013 #6

No more conditions, no more negotiations, no more agreements. enough Nov 2013 #5

Job one would seem to be protecting yourself...physically, economically, and emotionally HereSince1628 Nov 2013 #7

"If he doesn't agree to ..." Tell him to leave you alone. Now. Not later. AnotherMcIntosh Nov 2013 #8

Thank yo all for the great information and help. I've decided to pack his things in the car and Maraya1969 Nov 2013 #9

what a horrible situation otherone Nov 2013 #10

I don't know, the advice I gave to a guy who talked to me after group while IP... moriah Nov 2013 #11

Co-Dependency Feral Child Mar 2014 #12