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Duncan Grant

(8,264 posts)
Fri May 18, 2012, 01:12 PM May 2012

Male erotica in the LGBT group: Why now? What's changed? [View all]

This discussion thread was locked by Jamastiene (a host of the LGBT group).

Over the years, the tone of this group/forum has been similar to a 'salon'. We get together (Ls, Gs, Bs, Ts and our straight allies) and share current events, exchange ideas, learn from one another, and commiserate.

In recent months, male erotica threads are becoming more common. It seems to me there are millions of websites where one can view photos of men -- so, I'm wondering why these photos and threads are appearing here now? What's changed?

Personally, I think erotica in this forum/group diminishes its credibility. There's a time and a place for everything; I have nothing against the continuum of sexuality (far from it). I'd like to check in with the community of DU LGBT people and see if I'm alone.

Obviously, I can use the ignore/hide thread function but I thought I'd ask for a little discussion about this first. My request is that we discuss this thoughtfully -- no one is required to be "right" or "wrong".

Many thanks,
DG

p.s. I won't be able to post regular responses (very busy over the next few days) but I will try to check in.

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I don't think such threads should DOMINATE the group but closeupready May 2012 #1
This isn't unreasonable. Duncan Grant May 2012 #8
Sigh... WillParkinson May 2012 #2
Please don't stop....Its nice to take a breather from the bitching, arguing and nitpicking that one Rowdyboy May 2012 #14
Keep Posting Just As You Have Been..... queerart May 2012 #18
I have no right to ask you to stop. Duncan Grant May 2012 #19
From the LGBT Hosts I have talked to so far including myself William769 May 2012 #3
Discussion is not friction. Duncan Grant May 2012 #20
I don't believe that William said that he spoke TriMera May 2012 #21
Oh, dear. More host defensiveness. Duncan Grant May 2012 #24
If you have a problem with me being a LGBT Host, ask the LGBT members for my removal William769 May 2012 #25
You Are A Splendid Host.... queerart May 2012 #26
You're totally stuck with being a Host as far as I'm concerned. Zorra May 2012 #34
You're too short for that gesture. Besides, it went out with Mrs. Fiske. (nt) Duncan Grant May 2012 #47
It seems to me your next move should be toward television. Smarmie Doofus May 2012 #87
Count one more vote in your corner....You have been an excellent host among a really fine group.... Rowdyboy May 2012 #56
Why do you feel that the pictures diminish the group's credibility? Jamastiene May 2012 #4
This group could be "all photos, all the time" if that's the group consensus. Duncan Grant May 2012 #23
You can find the vision/function of the group in the SOP and the SOP thread pinned to the top Fearless May 2012 #27
Yes, I'm aware of the pinned thread. Duncan Grant May 2012 #35
Could you provide a link? Fearless May 2012 #37
The point has been made, I don't think it will add anything to the discussion. (nt) Duncan Grant May 2012 #48
Fair enough... Fearless May 2012 #77
OK, excuse me? WillParkinson May 2012 #30
Please don't be defensive. Duncan Grant May 2012 #36
There have only been a few pictures threads. Jamastiene May 2012 #33
sorry dude -- male erotica doesn't diminish us. xchrom May 2012 #5
If anything more L and T light erotica.... Evasporque May 2012 #6
I wholeheartedly agree HillWilliam May 2012 #74
HOT WET FIREMEN GOING AT IT!! Evasporque May 2012 #7
As long as there is a NSFW tag in the title of the post, I'm OK with it. racaulk May 2012 #9
Good to hear from you on this topic! Duncan Grant May 2012 #49
Hmmmm libodem May 2012 #10
You do, indeed. If anyone knows a hot man when they see one, closeupready May 2012 #11
I don't mind them mitchtv May 2012 #12
"few enough participants here as it is" Duncan Grant May 2012 #50
It seems to me that... Fearless May 2012 #13
Sorry but I have to disagree.....they are few in number and hardly qualify as "male erotica" Rowdyboy May 2012 #15
May I ask you a question with all due respect? Call Me Wesley May 2012 #16
There's a great discussion about this idea further down thread. Duncan Grant May 2012 #53
I basically agree. Smarmie Doofus May 2012 #17
Thanks for checking in. Duncan Grant May 2012 #54
Thank you for raising the question. Ms. Toad May 2012 #22
Thank you for adding so much to the discussion. Duncan Grant May 2012 #58
I think that I am probably the only host who agrees with you, Duncan. yardwork May 2012 #28
No... WillParkinson May 2012 #31
You've got 3 people disagreeing with you and dozens in agreement, including all the other hosts. yardwork May 2012 #32
Thanks, you've likely stuck a "kick me" sign on your back for saying so. :) Duncan Grant May 2012 #61
+ 1. Yardie, I feel conflicted with regard to this issue also. Zorra May 2012 #78
Your not alone FreeState May 2012 #88
I enjoy the pictures and don't think they diminish our group at all. beyurslf May 2012 #29
This Thread.... queerart May 2012 #38
It is a legitimate question Ms. Toad May 2012 #39
It is our space, we can do what we want in it..... queerart May 2012 #41
I have no idea what you are talking about, or why you are so angry Ms. Toad May 2012 #44
Post removed Post removed May 2012 #45
I was appalled to read the hidden post. Duncan Grant May 2012 #64
I am appalled at the hidden post, Ms. Toad obamanut2012 May 2012 #80
Why are you being so hostile to Ms. Toad??? obamanut2012 May 2012 #79
This is exactly it. Duncan Grant May 2012 #63
I heartily doubt that it's the HillWilliam May 2012 #75
Not exclusively, Ms. Toad May 2012 #85
Well, it's one of the reasons I rarely visit anymore theHandpuppet May 2012 #110
Thank you for posting. Duncan Grant May 2012 #120
I don't see a problem HillWilliam May 2012 #40
Thank you for illustrating my point Ms. Toad May 2012 #43
Do you not see gay/bi men as part of "our culture?" Behind the Aegis May 2012 #51
I have to give you a two part answer Ms. Toad May 2012 #57
Your answers weren't at all clear. Behind the Aegis May 2012 #60
I am not looking for a problem that doesn't exist. Ms. Toad May 2012 #66
Maybe, maybe not. Behind the Aegis May 2012 #67
I'm not baiting Ms. Toad May 2012 #70
We will have to disagree on your subject line. Behind the Aegis May 2012 #71
For what it's worth, your post was perfectly clear to me. Duncan Grant May 2012 #65
I'm female and have no problem if they guys want to post a picture thread. Jamastiene May 2012 #82
Not necessarily, dear HillWilliam May 2012 #73
The place of nude and semi-clothed depictions of people Ms. Toad May 2012 #81
I get the question about cred Capt. Obvious May 2012 #42
I'm actually less concerned about how it looks to outsiders Ms. Toad May 2012 #46
Personally, I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill. Behind the Aegis May 2012 #52
+1 Rowdyboy May 2012 #55
The question was raised by someone else. Ms. Toad May 2012 #59
As I said, you are still in Molehill Country. Behind the Aegis May 2012 #62
I guess what I find troubling is that a lot of the overreaction and offense was directed at me. Ms. Toad May 2012 #68
Who let the dogs out?! ME! ME! ME! Behind the Aegis May 2012 #69
Glad the dogs got out - Ms. Toad May 2012 #84
You have said this 2 times. Puglover May 2012 #86
One of the challenges LGBT groups often face Ms. Toad May 2012 #90
I was going to stay out of this thread but you have made me change my mind. William769 May 2012 #91
I did not say or imply it was unsafe. Ms. Toad May 2012 #92
This Puglover May 2012 #72
+1000000000 HillWilliam May 2012 #76
If WillParkinson's bare chested men draw such condemnation, imagine posting pics from Pride! Rowdyboy May 2012 #89
It was a NSFW thread. Duncan Grant May 2012 #98
This is what I don't understand William769 May 2012 #99
I don't have to prove you wrong to have an honest discussion. Duncan Grant May 2012 #101
And I quote, William769 May 2012 #103
In other words, this discussion is all lies. Is the thread all lies, too? Duncan Grant May 2012 #106
Once again show where this group is headed in that direction. William769 May 2012 #107
This message was self-deleted by its author Call Me Wesley May 2012 #102
So, we're going to kill the messenger now? I've been waiting for this. Duncan Grant May 2012 #105
And I see absolutely no harm in one being posted now and again....As I have repeatedly said in this Rowdyboy May 2012 #114
As a straight supporter, I dont understand the OP stevenleser May 2012 #83
to me the issue is where is the female erotica? La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #93
Right on! Vanje May 2012 #94
Nice pics. William769 May 2012 #95
Last year while in Merida Mexico we bought a Kahlo reproduction.... Rowdyboy May 2012 #113
That's a very good question. But who are the "outsiders"? Duncan Grant May 2012 #96
i totally understand not wanting this group to devolve into a gay.com forum La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #97
Thanks, I appreciate that. Duncan Grant May 2012 #100
When you replied to my post further up, Call Me Wesley May 2012 #104
An expedited response: Duncan Grant May 2012 #109
+1 mitchtv May 2012 #111
upon re-reading you are right, you never said outsiders La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #108
STOP FUCKING PUSHING THIS TO THE TOP OF THE LIST MNBrewer May 2012 #112
Let the race to the bottom begin (no pun intended). Duncan Grant May 2012 #118
can i ask you what is making you so upset about this? La Lioness Priyanka May 2012 #123
I've been holding on to this HillWilliam May 2012 #115
Its hard to see how much else needs to be said....you've encapsulated my feelings far better than Rowdyboy May 2012 #116
I would invite anyone to read my journal if they're interested in what I like to post. Duncan Grant May 2012 #117
No, the problem... WillParkinson May 2012 #121
OK, I've had enough.... WillParkinson May 2012 #119
+1000 Puglover May 2012 #122
For what it's worth... Zorra May 2012 #124
This and WillParkinson's 119 are some of the best DU posts I have ever seen. stevenleser May 2012 #125
And people like you and Will and Jamestine and Bill and dsc are why this group works so well..... Rowdyboy May 2012 #126
Thank you for your thoughtful response. Ms. Toad May 2012 #127
But why does it make you feel uncomfortable? Prism May 2012 #130
My concern over this was not the pictures, but the response to the OP from this group. yardwork May 2012 #132
Yardwork, please dont go, I dont say it often (ever?) but I enjoy and respect your posts. stevenleser May 2012 #133
I think of this group like a neighborhood gay bar with friends. Prism May 2012 #128
Hmmm, I agree with everything except the surprise at the reaction. stevenleser May 2012 #129
Hmm, I do see your point Prism May 2012 #131
This thread has run its course. Jamastiene May 2012 #134
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