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Bonobo

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Mon Feb 4, 2013, 01:26 AM Feb 2013

Male Sexual Response [View all]

http://rationalmale.wordpress.com/2013/02/01/male-sexual-response/


As I stated in Women & Sex, until a woman lives in 12.5 to 17 times her present testosterone levels 24/7 she cannot ever understand male sexuality. And since she lives in a fem-centric reality (both personally and socially) her awareness and expectations of male sexuality is defined by the only terms she has a frame of reference for – female sexuality.

So it should come as no shock that women are bewildered (and disgusted) by a male sexual response that is incongruent with their own. They want to force fit it. In the Feminine Reality I stated:

For one gender to realize their sexual imperative the other must sacrifice their own. This is the root source of power the feminine imperative uses to establish its own reality as the normative one.


One of the reasons I repeatedly assert that women lack a fundamental appreciation for the sacrifices men make to facilitate their reality finds its roots in women’s lacking a male frame of reference. In general, Men are far more self-controlled than any woman can realistically understand. When we analyze the realities of the male sex response and the underlying biology that contributes to it, the control men exert over it is actually a triumph of evolved psychology and social directive.

Women are shocked that men are literally, neurologically wired to see them as sex objects. The parts of our brains that are attuned to using tools is stimulated when we see scantily dressed women. Women may be horrified by this, but one thing you will never hear them utter is a word of how astounding it is that men (largely) have such psychological self-control over it.
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Male Sexual Response [View all] Bonobo Feb 2013 OP
Well said. MrSlayer Feb 2013 #1
Before the predictable howls o' outrage ensue, I will say that anecdotally there is a lot of Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #2
"Objectifying" is reducing someone to an unthinking, unfeeling object. Dash87 Feb 2013 #13
And again, I think it's a made-up phenomenon dressed up as "science", that some people have decided Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #17
Objectification isn't a scientific concept. Dash87 Feb 2013 #19
It is presented as an allegedly scientific concept. And unless YOU are the one doing the Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #20
Interesting read Sherman A1 Feb 2013 #3
Not outrage, bemusement. Warren Stupidity Feb 2013 #4
Strawman prize. nt Bonobo Feb 2013 #5
exactly - the 'way to miss a point' prize leftyohiolib Feb 2013 #6
from the article leftyohiolib Feb 2013 #7
For me, the issue is how male behavior is "pathologized"... Bonobo Feb 2013 #8
i remember testoerone poisoning - i think alan alda was throwing that around in the 70's leftyohiolib Feb 2013 #9
Well, I refuse to believe there is anything abnormal or wrong with the average guy. Denninmi Feb 2013 #11
you and i are on the same page leftyohiolib Feb 2013 #31
What a horrible article. Dash87 Feb 2013 #10
It doesn't ignore it at all. It makes a POINT of it. nt Bonobo Feb 2013 #12
The point I got is more apologia. Dash87 Feb 2013 #14
I don't think painting it with the MRA title is fair but I can see the strategy. Bonobo Feb 2013 #15
Looks and quacks like a duck. Dash87 Feb 2013 #16
I agree that no one deserves a "prize" for being a decent human being. That aspect bugged me, too. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #18
My opinion is about the blog. Nothing more. Dash87 Feb 2013 #21
Still, it's not helpful. In my experience some folks here think merely saying "MRA" is some sort of Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #22
I think the main element of virtuous masculinity is self control. lumberjack_jeff Feb 2013 #23
There seem to be a lot of women who immediately pull the disgust card.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Feb 2013 #24
AFAIC, there's nothing wrong with the latter one, either. Lots of people -of both genders- like sex. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #25
Just for the record, I'm not terribly impressed with this article. Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #26
Noted and I don't really disagree in general. Bonobo Feb 2013 #27
Like I said, anecdotally there seems to be a lot of stuff about the effect of testosterone, as Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #30
Agreed, but I think there are some valid points. Behind the Aegis Feb 2013 #28
That was my point, to the one who said "I don't want my 5 year old watching beyonce!" Warren DeMontague Feb 2013 #29
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