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In reply to the discussion: People who cry at movies are not "real men"? [View all]Denninmi
(6,581 posts)And I wouldn't be the least bit ashamed of it.
And I would go see a rom-com film like 'Pretty Woman' any time over a dumb bang-bang shoot em up Rambo type movie.
Yeah, I've had issues at times in my life, when OTHER people have decided I wasn't "manly" enough. Like my late father, who pretty much told me so because I wasn't interested in HIS particular vision of masculinity, which was going out into the fields and streams and blowing away Bambi. I would rather stay at home and cook and garden and putter with things like making birdhouses. And I wasn't really what you would call a metrosexual, but there was a time in my life when I was more concerned about clothes and image etc. than I am now that I'm older, and he didn't approve of that either.
I still don't do the things that many men are into and are considered uber-masculine. I'm not an athlete, and I'm not a sports fan, either. I don't hunt or fish. I don't womanize, or get into bikes or cars or anything like that. And I'm not the least bit ashamed of it. And frankly, I think I would make an awesome husband to any woman and awesome father in a lot of ways, well, other than the dirt-poor part
I think real masculinity isn't macho garbage, it's being a good, decent human being who treats others with respect.
Edited to add - I read the linked thread and the OP. I don't remember tearing up at the ending of Ghost, but I'm pretty sure I had a really hard time during Schindler's List.