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In reply to the discussion: how old were you when you forgave your parents? [View all]Jamaal510
(10,893 posts)a matter of forgiveness in my case--it was more of a thing of accepting reality. My mother used to be a regular smoker, and she did that while she was pregnant with me. I think that was how I was born with asthma. I hate being stuck with asthma for my entire life and how there is no cure for it, but there's not much I can do about it. She still has a drink after work every night, but I'm glad she at least stopped smoking. As far as my father goes, he has been an alcoholic and a drug user since before I was born. What that meant was that on some nights, he'd go out and do whatever, and not be around until the next day (or the day after that). When I was a kid, he'd usually lack the energy to do things with me such as taking me to the park and giving me rides to and from school, and sometimes to this day, he begs me for money late at night to support his habit. This is also the reason why he has had trouble looking for work and keeping a job. My mother and father have both been very supportive of me my entire life, but it's unfortunate that I never got to experience a more normal and stable upbringing.