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In reply to the discussion: how old were you when you forgave your parents? [View all]rivegauche
(601 posts)52. It happened after they died.
Both of my parents were alcoholics and there just was no talking to them about anything when they were alive. They had a lot of problems. I spent so long being angry at them, and it was impotent anger and pretty pointless. After they died (pretty close together) I spent a long time processing things, and now at age 56 have come to a fairly peaceful place about them both. They did a lot of damage to me and my siblings. I had to let it all go, or risk poisoning myself.
Some will say "they did they best they could with what they had". Maybe a little bit true for my mom but not dad. They did not do the best they could. But it's all right. I grew up and have a good life, so what's the point in holding on to anger.
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For me they need no forgiveness. They loved us, we loved them and now miss them.
Fla Dem
Sep 2016
#3
It was between me and my Mom. And I was in my late twenties. And it was mutual. (n/t)
Iggo
Sep 2016
#15