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In reply to the discussion: She married him because she is an idiot. [View all]Gormy Cuss
(30,884 posts)84. Yes, "agreeing to disagree" is dismissive
Last edited Tue Sep 9, 2014, 01:26 PM - Edit history (2)
though nowhere near as dismissive as calling someone an idiot because she is, for whatever reason, still with the person who abused her.
Best Defense for NOT Getting Abused: Don't Be In An Abusive Relationship
That oversimplification is not helpful to those in abusive relationships. It's also not helpful to those whose life experiences have conditioned them to think getting slapped around is a normal part of a loving relationship. Yes, it is lacking in empathy.
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I think she is not an idiot, but married him to walk away with half of his fortune.
B Calm
Sep 2014
#1
You make several good points, not the least of which is that it's learned behavior.
Arkansas Granny
Sep 2014
#2
"Mind control", "mentally ill", "slave" and "gold digger" seem to be the "go to"
IdaBriggs
Sep 2014
#8
No Ida, "we" do not. You are doing it, but many of us know better. Speak for yourself.
bettyellen
Sep 2014
#48
Then, despite whatever family experience you're going by, you show a lack of understanding.
moriah
Sep 2014
#33
Calling women idiots doesn't help them reclaim the power they've surrendered, though.
moriah
Sep 2014
#49
Perspective is everything: you saw me "attack the victim for standing up to her abuser."
IdaBriggs
Sep 2014
#58
Ida was describing what the woman was thinking, not what Ida herself believes. nt
tblue37
Sep 2014
#37
Just when you think you've seen everything, a thread like this comes along.
Sheldon Cooper
Sep 2014
#14
Good post (content), terrible title. You make many great points but calling her an 'idiot' rather
pampango
Sep 2014
#16
God, for someone who hectors other on rudeness, you sure take the cake.
Starry Messenger
Sep 2014
#97
Wow, we've certainly a lot of people who seem to know everything about everyone
NightWatcher
Sep 2014
#20
Here are the bright shiny moments from Ida's life that she has shared on DU
mentalsolstice
Sep 2014
#81
I wouldn't call her an idiot. If anything, I would say she made an idiotic decision.
Tatiana
Sep 2014
#36
Ask the same question about any of the other ways we as a society have handled this discussion.
IdaBriggs
Sep 2014
#50
There are many DUer posts to the contrary. FEAR is a constant, not income security
riderinthestorm
Sep 2014
#113
So, that I and 5 other jurors voted to let it stay, says what...exactly? BTW,
ChisolmTrailDem
Sep 2014
#73
I imagine you feel very empowered by pretending to know why or why not any given couple stays togeth
LanternWaste
Sep 2014
#75
I know someone who went back and forth in a relationship before she married the guy.
Tikki
Sep 2014
#79
You should just delete this piece of shit OP. You've already been locked out of it.
PeaceNikki
Sep 2014
#82
It is an important issue, I'm not sure why you could not see the problem, in a place where
AuntPatsy
Sep 2014
#89
IMO, like Snookie and her fans, there's a lot of "it" going around, it's an American thing.
NYC_SKP
Sep 2014
#93
People choose what's familiar: Alcohol, abuse, neglect, whatever. Smart people do, too.
lindysalsagal
Sep 2014
#99
She is NOT an idiot, she knows HIT is his response. It is much more complicated than that.
uppityperson
Sep 2014
#107