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Showing Original Post only (View all)I am a BDSMer. I have run workshops on how to practice it safely. I've been doing it for 20 years. [View all]
I would suggest to anyone interested in the practice to research it outwith the field of fiction and entirely outwith the field of political message boards. The most appropriate source of information on the subject is people who practice BDSM, not people who have no idea what it is beyond what it looks like and are liable to reach for whatever explanation of it seems to justify their emotional reaction to it.
Do NOT, repeat NOT absorb information about BDSM from non-practitioners. NEVER absorb unprocessed information about it from fantasists or phobics.
This has been a public service announcement.
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I am a BDSMer. I have run workshops on how to practice it safely. I've been doing it for 20 years. [View all]
sibelian
Jul 2014
OP
Thank You for what? Telling us to only get info from one source with a biased view?
KittyWampus
Jul 2014
#68
I never really could do it because it reminded me too much of an abusive relationship and what came
hrmjustin
Jul 2014
#53
But it's an interesting phenomenon that abused people often seek out abusive relationships,
Voice for Peace
Jul 2014
#61
And again, I'm sure you support their older, non "politically correct" opinions about homosexuality.
moriah
Jul 2014
#92
You're preaching about what is and what is not "natural" about sex, on a liberal discussion forum.
moriah
Jul 2014
#111
Explain tattoos, then. Or are people who like getting them "unnatural", too? n/t
moriah
Jul 2014
#135
You said liking pain wasn't natural, and that your judgement was not one about sex.
moriah
Jul 2014
#202
One thing that's hard to understand -- the dominant can't be dominant without the submissive's ....
moriah
Jul 2014
#243
It's less that you think it's bad for yourself. It's that you're passing a value judgement on others
moriah
Jul 2014
#260
You know, it used to be against the rules to say you were going to put someone on ignore...
moriah
Jul 2014
#269
People I know who do BDSM tell me that regardless of gender or orientations, subs far outnumber
eridani
Jul 2014
#271
Many women use drugs to alleviate the pain of childbirth, those who choose not to use drugs
seaglass
Jul 2014
#147
"Brilliance" indeed..You failed to get even 4 posts here before getting one hid!
whathehell
Aug 2014
#298
So you post judgmental crap, and when people call you on it, you put them on ignore?
moriah
Jul 2014
#239
The APA at one point thought homosexuality was unhealthy, too. Guess you support that as well.
moriah
Jul 2014
#84
I imagine it's ethically convenient to disagree with the academics when it suits your own biases
LanternWaste
Jul 2014
#169
Please cite your evidence that the decision was based on political correctness...
Hippo_Tron
Jul 2014
#216
As long as it's consenting adults, I prefer to leave it to them to set the boundaries. n/t
Gore1FL
Jul 2014
#42
Some people get an adrenaline rush from certain levels of pain or anticipation
Marrah_G
Jul 2014
#244
Thank you. I've and others have been trying to help people to understand that
Luminous Animal
Jul 2014
#86
Thanks. We're 99 days out, and talking about everything under the sun except what we need to be
genwah
Jul 2014
#8
You appear to be under the impression that people can focus on one, and only one concern at any give
LanternWaste
Jul 2014
#170
I like Frank Herbert's update on the word ghaflah. It's the small distraction that kills. Others
genwah
Jul 2014
#199
just type 50 shades of grey into the DU search box in the upper right hand corner up there
steve2470
Jul 2014
#17
"The view that it's weird or creepy seems to come from a small handful of people.."
whathehell
Jul 2014
#188
In years past, sex threads were not allowed anywhere on DU not even in the Lounge.
Tuesday Afternoon
Jul 2014
#79
Yes, another good one from the eighties but, then I love The Stones. Seen them twice.
Tuesday Afternoon
Jul 2014
#161
Safe.Sane.Consentual are essential Collarchat & Fet Life are good ref sites
stuffmatters
Jul 2014
#37
I could kiss you for that pun, but the law and this thread require that I smack you around.
DRoseDARs
Jul 2014
#182
Recent discussions have focussed on an allegedly irresponsible portrayal of BDSM.
sibelian
Jul 2014
#178
It's in response to a popular book being made into a movie being discussed here
Marrah_G
Aug 2014
#300
LOL! ONLY absorb information that is positive from BDSM practitioners. LOL!
KittyWampus
Jul 2014
#67
Not into heavy play, but I have taught at a good number of events across the US.
riqster
Jul 2014
#191
OK, outside of some light spanking and mild dominance play, not really into BDSM...
Humanist_Activist
Jul 2014
#241