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In reply to the discussion: This killer that went on a rampage shooting [View all]DonCoquixote
(13,616 posts)You said:
"We teach young men all the wrong lessons in our society. "
OK, that part can be agreed on.
More specifically, young straight men have approached me many times asking me as to why do young women like bad boys versus "gentlemen" for example?
The shark is about to be jumped. Define gentlemen, please? Is a person that believes his wife should follow his orders a gentlemen? That she should livve her life in subordination to his, as opposed to partnership with his? Can bad Boys also be blamed, or is iot all the woman's fault?
"I try to explain to these young men that young woman in their 20's have not yet cultivated healthy boundaries yet for relationship dynamics."
Asopposed to young males that have?
"I try to rationally explain to them why do you want validation from a woman that: 1. Do not make you a priority 2. If you were to hypothetically have a child with this woman resentment would be stronger because she would strongly feel she is wasting her time with you 3. Time is a valuable resource for any human being and move on as there are other woman that do make you a priority but you must be open minded in seeking such awesome people 4. If she is making bad decisions in her life why would you want to make your life more stressful? "
Lets take this down
1) Is the male willing to make her a priority, and not just in the ways that will get him laid? A partner has needs.
2) Why should be assume he needs a/is owed a child. Furthermore, how does the girl know YOU will make a good father, as , to be blunt, many more males abaondon families than women do. She knows she will have to risk being another single mom whose father will NOT help.
3) Yes, time is a valuable resources, especially for women who will not be able to start families in their sixties.
4) Bad decisions, maybe they see the man is making some and do not want to waste time.