This killer that went on a rampage shooting [View all]

[Harmony Blue]

is a sign of male suffering that we often don't fully understand in the Western world.

He learned all the wrong lessons and what he was taught growing up he found out was a lie. As a result he lashed out in a violent manner unable to deal with reality as a mature adult. He was stuck in a fantasy world where he was told lies. Had he swallowed the truth from older experienced men he would have been taught that men and women have preferences (it doesn't mean one is shallow) in picking their partners regardless of sexual orientation. And it is better to move on in a mature manner than dwell on being rejected. This young man was unhinged to the max because he had no proper male role model in his life to guide him as most parents these days have kids for social status without trying to raise them to be good citizens to our society.

We teach young men all the wrong lessons in our society. More specifically, young straight men have approached me many times asking me as to why do young women like bad boys versus "gentlemen" for example? I try to explain to these young men that young woman in their 20's have not yet cultivated healthy boundaries yet for relationship dynamics. I try to rationally explain to them why do you want validation from a woman that: 1. Do not make you a priority 2. If you were to hypothetically have a child with this woman resentment would be stronger because she would strongly feel she is wasting her time with you 3. Time is a valuable resource for any human being and move on as there are other woman that do make you a priority but you must be open minded in seeking such awesome people 4. If she is making bad decisions in her life why would you want to make your life more stressful?

But what a lot of these young men are taught is that being nice is the best way to be attractive to males and females. In reality anyone can be nice, but if there is a string attached then in reality you are not genuinely nice, but selfish and not real. Most men and women find partners attractive that are not door mats and have strong mental character where they do not seek validation about the adult choices they make and take responsibility for the choices they make.

This young man never was taught to be a real man and it is a shame he took the worst lessons from MRA extremists. I personally don't loathe MRA's like feminists do, but I do realize that the goal of some MRA's (more specifically traditionalist conservatives) is to try to revert relationship dynamics back to what they were before the 1970's. I am from the school of thought that you can't put the genie back in the bottle and that the tradcon MRA's trying to change the world back to a time forgotten is futile.

Looking back as a 21 year old man versus now at 31, women openly approach me while 10 years ago I would understand the frustration of this young man as I was invisible. But the biggest reason why women approach me now is that i am mature and financially secure and most importantly confident in myself. Some women have openly told me they would never date me because I am a few inches shy of the ideal 6 feet that they crave. I don't hate these women as I concede we are not compatible and I just move on with grace and dignity. What this young man did was disgusting and very sad.