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Women of DU [View all] boston bean Dec 2013 OP

Men in their 50s shouldn't be ogling young teens on the beach. DanTex Dec 2013 #1

Understand this is from where our experiences bring us. boston bean Dec 2013 #3

No, I get it. I'm not offended by the "creep shaming" or whatever. DanTex Dec 2013 #11

. boston bean Dec 2013 #12

of course uppityperson Dec 2013 #2

yes, and I took action Skittles Dec 2013 #4

I've done that as well, and the retort is usually, "b*tch". boston bean Dec 2013 #5

I don't give a damn WHAT they call me Skittles Dec 2013 #7

Well, as an adult, their words don't bother me so much, but some have gotten very angry boston bean Dec 2013 #8

the problem is that some men can and do get violent when humiliated and rejected. geek tragedy Dec 2013 #43

Yes, starting at age 10 BainsBane Dec 2013 #6

It's happened to me many times. Texasgal Dec 2013 #9

I wonder what would have happened it you loudly asked him Matariki Dec 2013 #74

Too many times to count. xulamaude Dec 2013 #10

tell your mercuryblues Dec 2013 #53

I would tell them I was going to march down to the police station and report them BainsBane Dec 2013 #55

Report them for what? Although creepy, I don't think looking at someone, even an underage kelly1mm Dec 2013 #104

soliciting children for prostitution is a crime BainsBane Dec 2013 #113

That surely is and it is tragic that it happened to you. I thought the comment was about kelly1mm Dec 2013 #124

The comments have been about sexualizing underage girls and children BainsBane Dec 2013 #127

Sexualizing via looking/staring/oggling underage (or overage) women is a problem. It is not illegal. kelly1mm Dec 2013 #133

I was struck azmom Dec 2013 #193

A no good dirty rotten despicable post hootinholler Dec 2013 #13

This is probably the most offensive post anyone has ever written to me on DU boston bean Dec 2013 #14

If your parents weren't such religious fundies, you'd LOVE being objectified! redqueen Dec 2013 #22

OMFG, RQ, really! boston bean Dec 2013 #24

I wish I could be surprised. redqueen Dec 2013 #33

Hi RQ....I have to admit something on this thread. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #181

Your post is FUCKING SICKENING. redqueen Dec 2013 #190

Why would you feel dirty? hootinholler Dec 2013 #25

You have fucking truly offended me to the core! boston bean Dec 2013 #26

I have apologized hootinholler Dec 2013 #28

So glad you are sorry I'm offended. boston bean Dec 2013 #31

You should stop digging. MerryBlooms Dec 2013 #59

Saying you are sorry someone is offended whopis01 Dec 2013 #198

You shouldn't give people such power lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #152

Obviously you have described yourself to a T. boston bean Dec 2013 #153

It's a better way to live. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #154

I'm not wasting my time with someone who doesn't take into consideration boston bean Dec 2013 #156

Okee dokee. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #158

FWIW, I had a great day! Don't concern yourself with me. boston bean Dec 2013 #159

Thanks! One more visit to the hot celebrities thread and it's off to fix dinner! n/t lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #162

Cool, bro! nt boston bean Dec 2013 #163

It may not have been your intention but xulamaude Dec 2013 #29

Which part of what I said? hootinholler Dec 2013 #32

let's start with you not being qualified to tell other people why they feel what they feel. nt geek tragedy Dec 2013 #34

Yes that was inartfully put, obviously hootinholler Dec 2013 #46

Seriously? Telling men that they are "ogling"; because they want to make women feel... lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #157

Men ogle for any number of causes/reasons, some geek tragedy Dec 2013 #186

It's easy - just read what we have said in this thread. xulamaude Dec 2013 #36

Check out the plenty Feminism 101 resources on the net. NT KitSileya Dec 2013 #39

Let me try. redqueen Dec 2013 #40

Thanks! hootinholler Dec 2013 #50

I get where you're going with that... redqueen Dec 2013 #62

No I didn't mean to go that far hootinholler Dec 2013 #71

Old men oogling Texasgal Dec 2013 #44

Yes but it's the old man who is dirty n/t hootinholler Dec 2013 #51

It's none of your business Texasgal Dec 2013 #54

That was not my intent hootinholler Dec 2013 #63

This thread was not asking Texasgal Dec 2013 #66

That's an excellent question. nt xulamaude Dec 2013 #80

his intent was to belittle the woman's feelings. one has to ask why he felt the need. bettyellen Dec 2013 #117

No it wasn't at all hootinholler Dec 2013 #143

I can accept that. boston bean Dec 2013 #149

Thank you!! hootinholler Dec 2013 #151

I'll accept that. Texasgal Dec 2013 #150

Thank you hootinholler Dec 2013 #161

Merry Xmas. 840high Dec 2013 #173

learn from this one thing, it is different if you are a man. you haven't had people rub off on you bettyellen Dec 2013 #164

I have actually, but not to the degree that a woman would. hootinholler Dec 2013 #167

multiply it by 20 and you'll know what we have heard from friends, and then that bettyellen Dec 2013 #170

"your upbringing made you feel dirty" xulamaude Dec 2013 #17

Thank you. hootinholler Dec 2013 #35

You will please not thank me when I am obviously xulamaude Dec 2013 #42

Wow theHandpuppet Dec 2013 #18

LOL Skittles Dec 2013 #19

Where did I defend his behavior? n/t hootinholler Dec 2013 #30

You put the onus of the shame on the victim BainsBane Dec 2013 #64

Give it up. RC Dec 2013 #69

they? them? Skittles Dec 2013 #126

Nice victim blaming. Very revealing. nt geek tragedy Dec 2013 #20

Really, how much do you think children are supposed to overcome? BainsBane Dec 2013 #21

What? Texasgal Dec 2013 #27

Whoa! graywarrior Dec 2013 #38

I know, that really wasn't what I intended n/t hootinholler Dec 2013 #56

Well, that response is fucked up beyond belief. n/t demmiblue Dec 2013 #60

that was repulsive, which is a long way from "unartful". bettyellen Dec 2013 #76

oh my... Whisp Dec 2013 #122

I agree, who wrote that? hootinholler Dec 2013 #148

Yeh, I'm guilty of that too. Whisp Dec 2013 #165

I believe Warren Montangue is responisble for this. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #179

he's a legend in your own mind, and probably the foot in your…. bettyellen Dec 2013 #187

You were right on your first post. Old and In the Way Dec 2013 #184

Too many times to count. redqueen Dec 2013 #15

That has been my experience etherealtruth Dec 2013 #48

Ugh. How sad. redqueen Dec 2013 #58

Miss it? OMFG Matariki Dec 2013 #84

IKR? redqueen Dec 2013 #116

My mom is on DU?! xulamaude Dec 2013 #129

! redqueen Dec 2013 #132

the people saying it are clearly NOT women etherealtruth Dec 2013 #131

Oh, definitely. KitSileya Dec 2013 #16

ditto ditto ditto laundry_queen Dec 2013 #41

Recently on the bus I watched a middle aged man, 45 or so, openly stare at a young pretty woman. CrispyQ Dec 2013 #23

From the time I was 11 years old. MadrasT Dec 2013 #37

We ALL have! Sheldon Cooper Dec 2013 #45

At least uncomfortable on occasion yes - TBF Dec 2013 #47

Honestly, no. Butterbean Dec 2013 #49

when i was 14 mercuryblues Dec 2013 #52

+1 Matariki Dec 2013 #92

Your last paragraph nails it. whopis01 Dec 2013 #199

I doubt any man on this forum thinks that behavior is ok. n-t Logical Dec 2013 #57

some 'men' have suggested that women wear burkas if they don't like being stared at. geek tragedy Dec 2013 #89

Wow, that is terrible. n-t Logical Dec 2013 #112

the hits keep on coming geek tragedy Dec 2013 #120

Of course. a la izquierda Dec 2013 #61

"He was in his fifties, and not an ugly man, physically." WorseBeforeBetter Dec 2013 #65

It's okay then BainsBane Dec 2013 #70

Don't put words in my mouth. WorseBeforeBetter Dec 2013 #73

Then perhaps you should read a thread BainsBane Dec 2013 #81

So many on DU? kcr Dec 2013 #86

thank you. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #108

I said that because people have said that women are only uncomfortable if ugly men boston bean Dec 2013 #95

Yeah mercuryblues Dec 2013 #166

Yes, it's happened to me. LumosMaxima Dec 2013 #67

I understand that mercuryblues Dec 2013 #175

yes, i am sure it happens to all of us Liberal_in_LA Dec 2013 #68

Jezus fuck yes. Matariki Dec 2013 #72

And sometimes it happens in an instant. Mister Ed Dec 2013 #75

I see a lot of anger from men who got the same look that you did, now directed at women…. bettyellen Dec 2013 #109

Yes. LWolf Dec 2013 #77

Women ogle other women's breast as much as men NoOneMan Dec 2013 #78

Nope. LWolf Dec 2013 #85

And since you are a representative sample of all women... NoOneMan Dec 2013 #99

That's one well-used way to LWolf Dec 2013 #191

I learn from the best NoOneMan Dec 2013 #192

Are you a DU woman? xulamaude Dec 2013 #87

The title of this thread is not "Du men, post your dishonest excuses for ogling women" nt geek tragedy Dec 2013 #91

Sounds like a call-out NoOneMan Dec 2013 #97

No, just an accurate statement, unlike your 'contribution' nt geek tragedy Dec 2013 #101

No, they don't BainsBane Dec 2013 #94

Eyetrack study captures men’s — and women’s — objectifying gazes NoOneMan Dec 2013 #96

Because looking and ogling aren't the same thing BainsBane Dec 2013 #100

Yep. The distinction can be quite subjective NoOneMan Dec 2013 #102

They were looking at a picture. boston bean Dec 2013 #107

"human beings know when they are being leered at" NoOneMan Dec 2013 #111

So, people who experience this are just a bunch of liars. got it. boston bean Dec 2013 #119

No. I didn't say you are lying about your perceptions of reality NoOneMan Dec 2013 #123

So, this shit doesn't happen, it's just a perception. ok. boston bean Dec 2013 #125

If that's what you want to believe, go have a crack at it NoOneMan Dec 2013 #134

I live in a world where I understand this shit is real and happens. boston bean Dec 2013 #135

I wish you the best luck in getting yourself to a healthier and better place NoOneMan Dec 2013 #138

It is you who needs your wishes. boston bean Dec 2013 #142

It seems increasingly clear that the healthier and better 'place' xulamaude Dec 2013 #147

wow mercuryblues Dec 2013 #177

Write the researches a mean, nasty letter NoOneMan Dec 2013 #180

you'd better mercuryblues Dec 2013 #185

Well, since it's established that you falsified the findings BainsBane Dec 2013 #121

Its been established that women spend as much time staring at breasts as men NoOneMan Dec 2013 #130

I don't find women staring at my breasts. They might do so in a picture, but in real life boston bean Dec 2013 #136

The study speaks for itself NoOneMan Dec 2013 #140

I don't feel left out. no need to feel sorry for me. boston bean Dec 2013 #146

"wanted objectifying gaze" Matariki Dec 2013 #139

That's just my sense of humor talking there NoOneMan Dec 2013 #141

Your transparency page is pretty funny too! Matariki Dec 2013 #144

You just LIED about the study you're citing. They did not conclude it was ogling. geek tragedy Dec 2013 #103

No, the beholdees here are classifying one stare from another as ogling NoOneMan Dec 2013 #106

I'm sure all the women here greatly appreciate you men's rights types explaining what women geek tragedy Dec 2013 #110

Do men rights type passively dismiss any woman's posts as rad fem talking points? NoOneMan Dec 2013 #115

Yes, I have, and I handled it. ohheckyeah Dec 2013 #79

Of course ismnotwasm Dec 2013 #82

Old women make me feel uncomfortable all the time Harmony Blue Dec 2013 #83

Are you a DU woman? xulamaude Dec 2013 #90

This is the interneet Harmony Blue Dec 2013 #98

I can usually tell the difference. nt xulamaude Dec 2013 #105

I wish I had your skills Harmony Blue Dec 2013 #118

Threads like this are a fantastic reminder... Demo_Chris Dec 2013 #88

I don't know if it's been touched on in this thread justiceischeap Dec 2013 #172

Yep PasadenaTrudy Dec 2013 #93

Creeped out mostly by but certainly not exclusive by older men many, many times. Whisp Dec 2013 #114

I don't think anything in that first paragraph is okay hfojvt Dec 2013 #183

very common on the subways, as was copping a feel, ugh yikes. bettyellen Dec 2013 #128

Speaking as a guy in his fifties I wonder if this guy had a daughter or at least a niece or two. Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Dec 2013 #137

He probably had similar thoughts about them too. nt geek tragedy Dec 2013 #145

At least two notable times. Starry Messenger Dec 2013 #155

I am struck by how it starts at the same age for most who are talking about it Ms. Toad Dec 2013 #160

At the time of puberty? MadrasT Dec 2013 #169

The only age I've seen mentioned is 11 - Ms. Toad Dec 2013 #171

As a man, I feel creeped out by bulge hunting women who stare at my "package". panader0 Dec 2013 #168

The title sounded like it was advertising a calendar. BKH70041 Dec 2013 #174

I think you should put your flame suit on Harmony Blue Dec 2013 #176

Post removed Post removed Dec 2013 #178

Only a certain kind of man is whining about geek tragedy Dec 2013 #189

Glad that was hidden. Can't believe this one was allowed to stand redqueen Dec 2013 #194

Telling that juries getting 1/2 right is a relief. geek tragedy Dec 2013 #196

It was unanimous. Results below: MineralMan Dec 2013 #197

Overreaction score to today's topic: 6.0 Pretzel_Warrior Dec 2013 #182

Yes. Solly Mack Dec 2013 #188

I'm in my 50's now azmom Dec 2013 #195