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In reply to the discussion: 'Men's Rights' Trolls Spam Occidental College Online Rape Report Form [View all]seabeyond
(110,159 posts)listens to a man saying he wants to get off on porn that looks like women are getting raped, and we women that have been raped knows that if our rape was videod and put on the net, that is what these men would be getting off on. our rape
do you follow that so far? can you place yourself in womens position here on du when we tell men that saying they want the real life looking like real rape porn to get off on, that we are saying to self .... he wants a video of my rape to get off to?
that leaves NO impression on you?
see, to me that is a huge revelation that a man will hear a woman say something that connects dots like this. telling men what our perception is, following these dots. and men ignore or say they do not agree. what do you not agree on? that when i hear men say they want to see rape that looks real, that i do not associate it with wanting to get off on my rape? that i shouldnt feel that way? gonna tell me i should not feel that way?
this would be one little step in discussion.
in my opinion, when men tell women that we should not associate the two, it tells me there is a huge lack of empathy, understanding, insight, willingness to address something not so pretty, denial.
so, when i see men that hate... women. men that want to dismiss rape as these men on reddit did. it tells me that they have no empathy for a rape victim.
i am not seeing a difference there.
i do see them as the same. exactly. refusing to actually think about... and on du refusal to even listen to a rape victim say what they think of the man watching a rape film. a refusal to have any empathy or thought toward understanding, whether a man gives up his rape porn or not.