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In reply to the discussion: Woman forces stepdaughter to wear dowdy thrift store clothes as punishment for bullying [View all]Mariana
(14,856 posts)95. Apparently, making the kid wear clothes she doesn't like
is "bullying" her.
It must follow, then, that any parents who can't afford to buy new, fashionable clothes for their children are bullying their children daily. What a load of horseshit. As someone else has pointed out on this thread, millions of children don't get to choose their own clothing.
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Liberal_in_LA
May 2013
OP
Welcome to DU and please dump the caps lock as it is yelling and not good manners. Thanks
uppityperson
May 2013
#90
I guess I suffer from being a member of the professional educational community.
NYC_SKP
May 2013
#111
So you don't think it's a good lesson for people to walk in another persons shoes
snooper2
May 2013
#199
Hence, we must place the same amount of skepticism on the crux of the story itself...
LanternWaste
May 2013
#177
Yeah. I'm undecided about the whole thing but I definitely think putting this out to the media
cui bono
May 2013
#63
Love it, sometimes you have to think out of the box to get a teen's attention.
dem in texas
May 2013
#59
In a case like this, my step-daughter's mother would have encouraged the bullying -
haele
May 2013
#230
It's a little power-trip. A little feels good, more feels better, and if no one stops it...
Hekate
May 2013
#10
My question was not a contesting one; I actually wanted to know what you would do.
dogknob
May 2013
#28
Add to it that when Bullies get burned and they know who got them burned...
Lady Freedom Returns
May 2013
#31
Exactly! The punishment is apt to make the bullied girl even more a target.
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#131
I think we can look at it in another way. it reinforces the idea to be grateful for what you
robinlynne
May 2013
#89
understood. But we were dealing with a bully. Walk a mile in my shoes actually works.
robinlynne
May 2013
#222
sounds like the mother bullied her step-daughter into embaressing herself.
leftyohiolib
May 2013
#61
When I was a kid, I stole some quarters from my Dad. he held a "trial" in the back yard. All the
robinlynne
May 2013
#92
Punishment fits the crime? I suppose. Telling the story to the TV machine? Not so much. n/t
lumberjack_jeff
May 2013
#11
If there is nothing humiliating about it, then why use the clothes as a punishment?
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#136
With our kids, it was: "if you act like a jerk, you're gonna get treated like a jerk."
calimary
May 2013
#142
What does that mean? You acted like a jerk back to them? (Honest, I am confused.)
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#145
in your own words > making you work with the poor as a volunteer against your will is "bullying".
KittyWampus
May 2013
#120
if a kid is a bully, why would volunteering make poor people any more 'real' to them than the
HiPointDem
May 2013
#159
The mom said that she picked out the clothes specifically to embarrass the girl. An adult
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#147
A parent making a kid feeling bad about doing something wrong, in order to teach a life lesson.
Heywood J
May 2013
#190
I agree with you and thank you for speaking out. I am very much against bullying, but, as you
rhett o rick
May 2013
#37
As someone at the link points out, the girl learned sympathy for the bullied girl
Gormy Cuss
May 2013
#103
I'm not comfortable with this. Public humiliation of people is just not a a good way to go
cali
May 2013
#33
Several people have said this, but none have offered what these better ways are. nt
Demo_Chris
May 2013
#42
I see you accept the shallow premise of appearance. True for our culture, which is doomed.
NYC_SKP
May 2013
#229
Maybe the daughter should have had to give up her favorite clothes to the victim. n/t
eggplant
May 2013
#58
Idiot stepmother. Bullies have self-esteem issues. Way to make it worse.
Gravitycollapse
May 2013
#75
Yes. A 10 year old girl deserves to be humiliated on a grand scale to "teach her a lesson".
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#149
The mom stated that she forced the girl to wear clothes that would embarrass her.
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#155
Funny thing is, almost everybody who gets out of jail or prison says that
Downtown Hound
May 2013
#234
I think the punishment is, more likely than not, going to make the bullied girl even more
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#133
Agreed. Except we don't teach empathy. We create it with our treatment of our children
vanlassie
May 2013
#146
Kid mocks unfashionable clothes. Mom forces kid to wear unfashionable clothes so people can mock her
Luminous Animal
May 2013
#150
+1. it's funny, they're all concerned that the bully may be traumatized by experiencing what
HiPointDem
May 2013
#164
I am amused by the number of people here who are so concerned about poor little Kaylee.
Sheldon Cooper
May 2013
#179
Or maybe not -- if her parents ask her questions like: "Are you a totally different person
Nay
May 2013
#241
Watched the video. Think more than ever that the stepmom represents the worst of our culture.
NYC_SKP
May 2013
#203
I'm always uncomfortable about a strategy that involves embarrassing a child.
Chemisse
May 2013
#219
The punishment was appropriate but the step mother should not have administered it
Hamlette
May 2013
#228