When a member of a minority group doesn't agree with advocacy groups, whose opinion has more weight?

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2. I frequently trash the gay establishment

Especially the cocktail crowd. During the DOMA problems in 2009 and 2010, it was up to us, the community, to make the connected LGBT political organizations march to our beat when their instinctive move was to protect their access and connections. The HRC did not take President Obama to task until we, the regular joes and janes, raised holy hell about it.

The advocacy groups often claim to speak for us as a whole, but when they're not, the onus is on the individual and the wider community to remind them why they're there.

Anyone with power and access must be constantly kept in check lest their privilege lead them down a divergent path that no longer represents and stands up for the least of us.