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In reply to the discussion: So last night I told my oldest sister not to contact me anymore [View all]hollysmom
(5,946 posts)My sister and I were very close but we had a disagreement about me once - she decided I was acting irrationally - I was on a weird mix of medication and was acting a bit weird, but got it fixed by seeing a doctor to change it but during that short time, she took my behavior as my fault and an insult to her. I tried to put it behind us but she kept bringing this up. I ended up have to see the doctor again because I could no longer control my blood pressure after a short talk with her, I would cry for hours after talking to her because she would make me feel so bad. I stopped talking to her - just would not take her calls, et al - told her I needed a break and would contact her wehn I felt better, well that made it worse to her and it just spiraled out of control. Now I missed her, but could not talk to her.
Finally wrote her that I would like to be back in touch if we never speak of this again. She agreed and with a few backslides which I quickly stopped, was have been able to have good times again. You just have to exorcise what ever you can't talk about and then go on with your life. It can be done if you actually like each other. Can't be done if you don't. My racist republican brother and I sort of have that rule, we slip now and then get back on track pretty fast because we love each other and he wants to stay in my will, ha ha - I am way older than him, so he probably will inherit from me, my sister is older and has health problems, so not so much.
edited because I read another reply, My sister is a lovely person, kind and generous, just feels she could run my life better than me, doesn't even do that to her children - and we were always very very close so much so that our cousins were always jealous.