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In reply to the discussion: Sexist men prefer bigger boobs: study [View all]seabeyond
(110,159 posts)harmful.
i taught my boys to hold door open, and we all do, for all people. i taught my boys to pull out chair. especially for a dress, makes it much easier to sit. but...
a tech worker. have to crawl under desks plugging in stuff. the man always comes to the womans rescue and crawls on the floor cause she is a lady. the nice thing to do. when it comes to a promotion he will see her as not doing her job. he will see him as jumping in to help fellow employees, on the ball.
he is doing it to be nice. it still effects her job.
here is a good explanation of it. i have heard the complaint from men, on this forum, in the past. and i agree with them. this would be benevolent sexism. yet, all of a sudden now, the men are opposed to agreeing with "them feminists"
A problem can arise when women are opposed to hostile sexism but not benevolent sexism, such as demanding equal pay for equal work but also believing a man should open the door for a woman. Men often view this as a double standard.
Glick and Fiske found that both types of sexism can, and generally do, coexist. Men who exhibit signs of benevolent sexism also tend to exhibit signs of hostile sexism. This is part of the reason that benevolent sexism may not be as harmless as it seems: it is clearly linked to the more injurious hostile sexism. This may help explain why sexism is still so prevalent in our society. Since the two are related, we can't eliminate the one without the other. Allowing benevolent sexism to remain may be forcing hostile sexism to stay, too.
i agree, it is a double standard. i will also say, when feminist discuss "hostile" sexism many of the men throw the "benevolent" sexism in our face about us being hypocrites.