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In reply to the discussion: Mother reports school suggested teen get breast reduction surgery to stop bullies [View all]zazen
(2,978 posts)I've been a radical feminist for 27 years. I'm active in the anti pornography and battered women's movement.
I most certainly don't think a 13 year old should be carved up to appease bullies. Nor did I say that.
But if a therapist suggests that at some point someone who's being mercilessly harassed in an insane culture because of a correctable physical feature might make the choice to cope with it that way, that is not the same as blaming the victim.
If a child's face is covered 50% with cafe au lait marks and he or she is mercilessly teased, it's the bullies' (and larger culture's) fault.
But according to your line of reasoning, that child should never, never as a teen or adult ever consider anything that would change that feature so that they aren't immediately a target for insensitive abusers.
I'm glad so many on this thread can be morally superior and know exactly what they'd do in others' life circumstances. My life experience has taught me to shut the f**k up about the choices others make to cope with blatant sexism, racism, ablism, ageism, etc. You go ahead and call me stupid and clueless and a victim blamer if that makes you feel better. Meanwhile, I'll keep my focus on the trivial things like men beating the crap out of women and the ones trafficking them and spewing torture pornography, and you keep your focus on these evil school counselors who are the true source of women-hating.