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In reply to the discussion: American Taliban: Women have no right to their own bodies, but they're responsible for HIS [View all]mbperrin
(7,672 posts)Please ask a behavioral scientist, a doctor who specializes in sexual function, a psychiatrist or any number of other professionals who work with this for a living.
It's learned behavior. (How do you think some people get erect from wearing a leather mask with a container of another person's shit attached to the breathing path? Or from beating someone to a pulp? )
Refusing to change a learned behavior from ignorance is learned helplessness. Same thing for people who won't study for exams (I'll just fail anyway), or engage in any number of harmful and hurtful behaviors.
Anything learned can be unlearned, replaced with another behavior. This is MY specialty.
Otherwise, we see comments in the paper like, "Oh, he just snapped and couldn't help it and killed 20 babies." "We can't judge because that's just how people are." "It's only natural, can't blame him." and before you know it, "She was asking for it." "She deserved it - she should have known how men are." and a thousand other excuses for sorry behavior that people do not want to change because they do it and want to justify it. This is why I'm an atheist - I don't just go get forgiveness from Jesus and run out and kill 20 more people so that Jesus can forgive me again.
Anyway, whatever works without harming others is fine. But in the case at hand, the woman was harmed, so that's not okay.