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bif

(22,754 posts)
Wed Dec 21, 2022, 04:44 PM Dec 2022

This is a tough time of year for me.

My mom died in early December a bunch of yers ago. So I don't really look forward to Christmas. And now that I'm not drinking, I sort of dread parties. I'm somewhat of an introvert, so drinking helped me loosen up around people. I've been sober for a little over four years, and honestly can't wait for the holiday season to be over.

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This is a tough time of year for me. (Original Post) bif Dec 2022 OP
I'm with you wryter2000 Dec 2022 #1
I enjoy how sweet drinking people get after a few drinks. Arrive at the applegrove Dec 2022 #2
I like vegetable lasagna. Takes time to make. Tetrachloride Dec 2022 #3
Much the same, here. ChazInAz Dec 2022 #4
You are NOT ALONE. Repeat: "...can't wait for the holiday season to be over." Stuart G Dec 2022 #5

wryter2000

(46,082 posts)
1. I'm with you
Wed Dec 21, 2022, 04:57 PM
Dec 2022

I’m not having to deal with addiction problems, but I lost my mother at 13, and my husband died on 12/29. I dislike Christmas entirely. I’m even Christian and will sing in my church choir on Sunday.

Don’t do parties if they cause you pain. They all say we’re supporting to be happy, right? Do what makes you happy and forget the rest. Don’t care what others think.

applegrove

(118,793 posts)
2. I enjoy how sweet drinking people get after a few drinks. Arrive at the
Wed Dec 21, 2022, 04:59 PM
Dec 2022

party a little bit late and try and enjoy happy, sweet folk. If you are and introvert it is great that they'll laugh at anything you say. That should be a confidence booster. I'm a non drinking alcoholic introvert too.

Tetrachloride

(7,873 posts)
3. I like vegetable lasagna. Takes time to make.
Wed Dec 21, 2022, 05:04 PM
Dec 2022

Always good to eat. Filling.

Dairy is a mixed bag.

Sit down and watch all of the documentaries of Lord of the Rings which I am doing now.

Egg nog is special. Homemade popcorn, butter, black pepper.

Email old friends.

ChazInAz

(2,572 posts)
4. Much the same, here.
Wed Dec 21, 2022, 08:45 PM
Dec 2022

Introvert. Widowered twelve years ago on December 5...my worst day. Sober forty one years, now.
The holidays and their crass, forced "Be Happy or else" attitude has always depressed me.
When I'm not in a Meeting, I read, make musical instruments, stream movies, and wait for Twelfth Night to come along to finish the season.

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