I do alot of online gaming

[Goalie49009]

like Left 4 Dead, Star Trek online, Battlestar online, Need For Speed Hot Pursuit type games and I have been with a Fleet/Clan now for about 5 years great people, but this new person that joined keeps using the word faggot alot referring to enemy players. I told the leader of the group to ask him not to use that slur cause I find it mean, yes my leader knows I'm gay, and he said to me oh just ignore it it's only a game. I said the game might be but the word isn't. So he asked him not to use it and he said why do we have one in the Fleet? and the chat room went silent for a bit none of the 6 said anything at that point. he still uses it but not as much. I don't want to leave my group and I was told not to let him know I am gay so how should I handle this politely?

[Drale]

1. You should ask that 12 year old

why he keeps referring to other players as bundles of sticks?

[Goalie49009]

2. Nice one never thought of that

but the guy is 26 he should know better.

[LuvNewcastle]

3. I'd raise hell about that.

It's an ugly word to throw around and it shouldn't be used by anyone. It wouldn't be cool to use it if you were straight, either.

[Goalie49009]

4. You know you are right

I have been in my group for years and this is a noob if I put him in his place about it and the other members get mad about me doing it then that would be their problem then.

[LuvNewcastle]

5. You got it! We shouldn't have to put up with that shit from anybody.

[The Philosopher]

6. I've called out

a couple of my friends once about their remarks. It was all excuses, excuses, excuses and nothing changed. From what limited interaction I've had through consoles, and through my own interaction through other games, I'm beginning to think that's the way it's going to be. Cowards won't change, because online nothing will happen to them.

However, we're always looking for safe spaces, for strength. If someone speaks out against a negative behavior, I think in this context it's more so someone like us can see and feel that they're not alone. Next time in chat you should answer his question about why an LGBTer is in y'all's group. Either your group realizes he's not an asset and kicks him out, or you realize you're not as attached to the people you've played half a decade with as you thought you were, giving you an incentive to start your own group with people in the same boat.

And, of course, ruining his day by pwning him wherever he goes is perfectly acceptable.

[Goalie49009]

7. that end statement made me smile

I love that idea and I will do just that today if he is on and starts in again I'll just keep in mind that when I see him it will just be.....

[Fearless]

8. I wouldn't tolerate it.

You have every right to be comfortable as anyone else. They would all be just as comfortable if the word wasn't used. They need to get over it and grow up. You are right.

[uriel1972]

9. I wonder about the group...

Is this excrementaly juvenile person worth it to them that they would lose an established player over their foul mouth? I guess after 5 years you have a lot invested in them, but loyalty goes two ways, if they are not loyal to you maybe it's time to shop around.

Make it clear that it's this cretin's foul mouth or you in private to the other players. Maybe they don't know how to handle it and are looking for direction. Don't go for them or me, just the word. If this moron doesn't like it they can go elsewhere. There are plenty more players where they come from.

If your "friends" don't support you then it's clear that it is not a safe environment for you and I would consider leaving them for a more conducive environment.

It is all about you and how safe you feel. I have quit gaming for various reasons, but I have left games and guilds over the word issue and casual homophobia. It's just not worth the agro for me.

It's your call in the end and you have to follow your own way. We will be here to help if you want.

[uriel1972]

10. Off topic: How is STO these days?...

I left before Perfect world? took over. Your post has made me think about gaming again. Darn you Goalie, Darn you to Heck .
I would have to start out as a newbie again as I have forgotten my account details and changed emails several times since then.
Would it be worth it to try again?

[NCLefty]

11. Ugh... that's one reason I won't play certain online games.

And I can't stay in a guild where that kind of language is allowed. Eve was really bad with the hyper-aggressive guys. I heard LoL is much the same.

I'm currently checking out EQ2 again. I was looking at STO the other day but PWE also puts me off so I'm wondering the same thing. Not that EQ2 isn't a cash-grab (there's a shopping cart button on the UI... *cry*).

[uriel1972]

12. I hear what you say about EvE...

Hmmm EQ2 might check it out again. EQNext or EQ3 or whatever it's called may still be in beta for all I know, but it is supposed to turn up soonTM. Don't know if it's for me though, the combat system sounded a bit like GW2 which left me cold, but the class system reminds me somewhat of Star Wars Galaxies... a little bit.

Decisions, decisions.

[Goalie49009]

14. Check out my post below

[Goalie49009]

13. Yes totally worth it

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And to let you know my fleet promoted me to Captain which is 3rd highest rank then there is Vice Admiral and Admiral...so I now have the ability to make Executive decisions here are some pics of me ship.. and a trailer to the game now....




Bridge of my ship. The U.S.S. Bad_Wolf (Dr. Who Ref.)



This is my ship with Borg Tech on it. And I'm in front of my Fleet Starbase.

My ship is the Prometheus class it has Multi Vector ability it breaks up into 3 parts really cool


Pic of My Avatar (Outcast) and my pet bird (Takira) I am a Vulcan and I am a Tactical Class Officer...there are 2 more you can go into there is the Engineering and Science as well each one has special talents or abilities mine is geared more to Weapons, Tactics and fighting, Eng focuses on ship hull healing abilities, and science more well special sciency stuff hahaha.



Here are a few trailers ...

Enjoy...... If you want to get started again start a new character...I'm federation and you can also play as Klingon and Romulon now. If you wanna start gaming in it again let me know I could help you out I have been on it for about 2 years now and can guide you through it and make you part of mt fleet.

My Fleet and I have an understanding now and they let me handle those situations so you all that want to start Star Trek PLEASE let me know...We also have a Voice program we use to chat on it helps when we do STF missions as a group for battle tactics.

And just to make you want to play it even more here is a great piece of computer animation..
I posted it in the lounge as well...Star Trek assists battlestar fleet...