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UTUSN

(70,744 posts)
Sun May 7, 2023, 01:30 PM May 2023

A lack of - *fading* of? - ATTENTION. "Losing" stuff, not lost, just placed automatically.

ON EDIT: I guess this also applies to posting in the wrong/GD forum!

*** So I could blame it on aging. But sort of increasingly over the past year, have had little episodes of "losing" personal or household items, spent significant 15-20 minutes looking for them, sometimes very necessary items whose loss is troubling. A recent one the other day was the missing partials, very troubling and resulting in an overnight worrying and then resigning to a solution of having a new set remade. And always with the Lapsed Catholic supplication to St Anthony, who finds lost things. The next morning, after having gone through prolonged searching of the likeliest places I had been, searching through pockets and repositories, *there* they were, on the floor beneath and under the laptop work station where I had sat the night before.

So this morning, getting the electric mower ready - installing the battery, getting a paper towel for sweating in the shirt pocket, putting on the work hat - almost fully ready, could *NOT* find the electric starter button. It was NOWHERE, not in its storage place, not in the mower. The searching verged on getting increasingly frenetic - like, without it I'll be stuck, ordering the part will take a week, WHAT to do. And St Anthony ON CALL. Finally, *there* it was: In my shirt pocket under where I had stuffed the paper towel. I had NO/ZERO memory of having retrieved it from its place or put it in my pocket. All done automatically, without ATTENTION.

I'm sure that deteriorating mental faculty might be obvious to some, and 76 years is not totally relevant since it can happen earlier. The wild variation in the quality of my DU posts will appeal to some, who will focus on my ridiculous ones and not on my cogent ones.

At a training delivered by a clinical social worker from the Mayo clinic, the trainer cited how a person was observed for (dementia?) yet was said by persons knowing her well to be an EXCELLENT driver. The trainer said that so long as the driver was traveling on streets that were totally familiar over many years, the driving might well be excellent, but if something UNEXPECTED happened, it would all go out the window.

*** Just throwing this out there for my own whim. Also, have been biting my tongue over my anti-"royal" feelings of the past days, just letting it fester, unless my hornet's nest gets kicked.



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erronis

(15,355 posts)
2. Thank you for this post. Same age and doing some volunteer driving.
Sun May 7, 2023, 01:47 PM
May 2023

I do a few routes for Meals-On-Wheels in a rural area. I'm mainly on auto-pilot with sometimes a new client added or one dropping off. Not too much need to think about as far as navigation. But deer, turkeys, young children, cows, pot-holes, sleet/hail/ice, etc. mean I can't doze off. I try to make myself observe something new on every route - something special about a house or a hill or even a tree or two - and then remember that newness.

sprinkleeninow

(20,267 posts)
4. Hiya 'Lapsed',
Sun May 7, 2023, 02:10 PM
May 2023
It be a combo of 'things'. The upsetting, unnerving, cruel, unspeakable stuff happening in our front/back yards, in our nation, on our planet. Coupled with getting 'up there' somewhat. It's happening to me more now than ever.

I have called on St. Anthony for decades. He has 'never' failed to come thru for me. Ever.

A short while ago, I also had some thoughts regarding pompous royalty, their costumes, etc.


🐦💙🦋

UTUSN

(70,744 posts)
8. Yeah, St Tony "has 'never' failed" - and almost always *FAST*, like a couple of minutes.
Sun May 7, 2023, 03:22 PM
May 2023

My NON-lapsed 83 yr old sister, who goes to Mass DAILY talks in nun-ese cutesy language, says that whenever there's a delay it's because he's VERY BUSY.






hippywife

(22,767 posts)
5. I often refer to myself...
Sun May 7, 2023, 02:18 PM
May 2023

as the Queen of Put-Shit-Down-and-Can't-Find-It. Even when I'm sitting there working on a jewelry project, and I just had something I need in my hand only moments ago. I haven't moved, and apparently the thing I need hasn't, either. It can be very frustrating.

UTUSN

(70,744 posts)
9. And my dog is a gem, never eats or chews or hides non-food things. But often, I purposely go to,
Sun May 7, 2023, 03:27 PM
May 2023

like, the frig to get something - something definite/specific - then stand at the open door for half a minute blankly, until I figure out what it was. And it's always something actually to be got there, the right place to go.

Aside, I relate to the "hippy" in your DU handle, greetings.





Cairycat

(1,707 posts)
10. One thing that helps me
Sun May 7, 2023, 03:45 PM
May 2023

(at least sometimes) is to say out loud what I need to remember. "I'm putting the starter button in my shirt pocket" I guess that's just a way of drawing your own attention to it.

But if I don't notice myself leaving something not in its usual place, the searching and panic you describe usually ensue!

UTUSN

(70,744 posts)
11. Yip. For words, when the word is a blank, Google has been fantastic.
Sun May 7, 2023, 04:52 PM
May 2023

Perhaps just to cover the problem, not to fix it, but when I can't think of the word, googling synonyms something-close helps me a lot.






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